Ask HN: I'm afraid my wife is dying. Is there a “quora.com” for rare cancers?
Short version: Is there a website or world-wide pool of oncologists which I could send an ultrasound-screening image or blood data, so that in return my little family can know how long we'll have our mommy?
Long version:
My wife, 35 years old, mother of two, has a very rare "thing" developing quite fast on her liver. She very rarely drinks alcohol, like once every 5 years, has no history of substance abuse, and according to blood screens her liver-values are fine with no indication of the liver being affected at all.
When our second child was born, 1,5 years ago, it was done via an emergency c-section, because of a sudden inner bleeding. Mother and child luckily survived. We found out the bleeding was caused by a "thing" bursting. The clinic's head oncologist, after having multiple round-table calls with other head oncologists from other clinics finally decided, that this was likely a malignant cancer.
So here we were, newborn baby, unharmed but an unnoticed 10cm-sized cystic cancer suddenly bursting, meaning it must have been there for quite some time. All the material around it was removed, the liver quickly grew back.
But on subsequent screenings new spots appeared. And now 1,5 years after the old thing was removed, some have grown to 5cm in size. No other organ seems affected and the liver still functioning, but one tumor marker is increasing.
We went to multiple clinics in Germany, even to Tübingen, which is rather regarded for their knowledge in the field. But no one can really tell us what this is or what to do [1]. It's not affecting any organs, isn't spreading (it had time to do so and just seems to live on/in the liver's surface), and since it's the liver chemotherapy doesn't seem to be an option.
We're seeking help, and clarity. And if there's one strength of the internet, it is connecting the right people with each other. Maybe posting this here helps.
[1] At the time we went to the clinics the spots were too small to take samples. I understand taking them now might prove more helpful - but then, if it's an incurable cancer my wife is kind of reluctant to have another surgery just to find out what we are already pretty sure what it is...
(Excuse any spelling errors, I'm not a native speaker)