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0 pointsspywaregorilla4y ago0 comments

And yet forming priors based on experience gained in a classic multi arm bandit thompson sampling approach with appropriate exploitation exploration tradeoff is generally the dominant strategy in any static unfamiliar space.

Alternatively, contextualizing things into niche stats frameworks doesn't make you correct, or sound intelligent.

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vmception4y ago

The point was to say it without saying it, to provoke introspection in their arbitrary associations.

The "it" being that the issue wasn't that they - and the future potential partners - didn't have a day job. And yet, this person chose that specific aspect of the relationship and elevated that to relevance for other relationships. Even further, they are applying this to people in other cities and geographies, amplifying the absurdity.

RHSeeger4y ago

> The "it" being that the issue wasn't that they - and the future potential partners - didn't have a day job.

Maybe not. However,

- If they haven't been able to identify what the real issue _is_, AND

- Avoiding dating people that don't have a day job limits (or completely prevents) dating people that do have the real issue, AND

- Avoiding said people doesn't limit the number of available people to date below a reasonable threshold, THEN

- Using "doesn't have a day job" as a filter seems to be a reasonable compromise for them.

Sure, it may prevent them from finding the "best" match, since there could be a person without a job that doesn't exhibit the real problem. But it's possible that removing that filter would cause so much wasted time (on dates with bad matches) that the odds of meeting a good match, nonetheless the best match, as significantly diminished (as is QoL).

9999000009994y ago

There are a few excellent reasons to never get involved with someone who doesn't have a job.

The first one is the vast majority of divorces are due to financial issues, my last partner left both of her husbands because they weren't making enough money. Her first husband didn't really want to work and they ended up moving in with her parents. A close family member had to break up with her husband since he wasn't working and kept overdrafting the joint account

The second reason, is this person who doesn't work is probably being supported by someone else.

Their sugar daddy's going to want to hurt you. I made the mistake once when I was younger of going out with a girl who didn't have a job, and this is basically what happened.

Finally, people with jobs tend to be much more straightforward.

You have a right to whatever dating criteria you choose. Some people won't date someone whose below a certain height. It's easier to fill out a job application than to become taller.

mavsman4y ago

Eventually wet bandits turn into sticky bandits

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