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0 pointsRHSeeger4y ago0 comments

> I feel like this respect for being nice to each other so we can all get along is on the wane.

In my mind, part of that is that the rules are getting stricter, so people respect those rules less. Over time, the needle has moved further towards the idea that anyone can be offended by anything anyone else says. Even if it's clear (to the average person) that the speaker meant no harm (or even intended a totally different meaning for the words), the fact that someone is offended means that the speaker is wrong. Professors get sanctioned for using a racist word in a discussion about racism (and sometimes that word in particular).

At some point, people start seeing those rules as ridiculous and no longer respect them (though they may still feel compelled to follow them, for fear of repercussions).

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mnsc4y ago· 2 in thread

> Over time, the needle has moved further towards the idea that anyone can be offended by anything anyone else says.

What do you mean by this? Are you talking about some contrived example where one person had their parents murdered by a maniac while shouting "bicycle" over and over which causes that word to be triggering ptsd for that individual. In that case that idea is correct since that, hypothetically, can happen for _any_ word yes. But how is that relevant to any of this?

RHSeegerOP4y ago

I'm talking about things like

1. A professor fired for using the N-word in a discussion about racial discrimination

2. A professor placed on leave for using a Chinese expression that sounded like the N-word

3. People that express the opinion that someone who has undergone a gender change operation is different from someone that was born that gender. Expressing an opinion that they're different in some ways; not mocking or insulting them.

4. A man saying "I'd fork that" about a software project and everything went sideways because someone else decided it was sexual and was offended by it.

On and on and on. It has gotten to the point that if someone THINKS you crossed an imaginary line, a line that keeps moving, then you can face severe personal and professional repercussions. I do not believe that this is good for us as a society. People are supposed to have differing opinions and then discuss those differences. People are supposed to be able to discuss things in general. People are supposed to be able to have a little fun.

Accidentally offending someone has turned into a horrible offense, and it's bad for our growth as a society.

dehugger4y ago

3. The words you use for this are trans and cis. No one is going to get upset at someone for using them. If you are trying to use "creative" language to say the same thing you shouldn't be surprised when people take offense, considering that non-offensive terms already exist.

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marcus_holmes4y ago

I think that's a slightly different problem - there is a purity spiral going on in academia (and Twitter) around the definition of "offensive" language.

Purity spirals never end well. The most famous one ended up with people being burnt alive as witches.

But it is a purity spiral - if you don't intend to be considered "pure" then it doesn't matter and you can effectively ignore it. Though whether your employer agrees or not is a different matter.

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