I figured out how to deal with cognitive dissonance people are feeling about this years ago.
I would rather make a calendar invite / use <insert your fav software> and remember to call <valued loved one or friend> and feel bad about having to do that...
Then forget to call and feel worse about forgetting.
> Then forget to call and feel bad about forgetting.
This. I feel really, really guilty if I hear something great or awful happened to someone I used to be in touch with, but the relationship faded away into the flow of life.
Why wasn't I there? What? It's been 3 years since we last talked? How did that happen?
