If you really think lonely people are just victimizing themselves then you need to make a better attempt at having empathy skills. It /is/ grossly unfair having to live like that. Unfair having to get catcalled too but as I said in another comment I'd have picked that over what my life had to be like in an instant.

I could easily say it's like comparing having a hard time losing weight because you have so much free food available to being homeless and starving.

It is not my experience with the women I know that they are aware of this. Maybe they think it is somewhat reduced from what they experience, or perhaps they think that the only women who contact men are legitimate, non-harassing contacts, but they are not aware that the actual experience is zero initiated contacts.

> because many men have developed a massive victim complex lately and won't stop trying to derail every mention of something women experience online to talk about themselves.

I have observed no massive victim complex. My comment was not intended to "derail" any mentions. I flatly stated my experience and that women are generally unaware of this experience.

If there is no interest in considering the experience of a party for whom you have some desire to influence, what is the likelihood of successful engagement? If you want men, who experience no initiated contacts to fully understand that women experience large amounts of harassment, might it be critical to approach them with the understanding that they have a completely different experience?