Yes but the subject at had was, specifically, womens' experience with harassment. There was no reason to make it about you, or about men not being engaged with by women. Sure, maybe some women don't understand what men go through in that case... it's not relevant, though.

The situations aren't even equivalent. Women have a right to expect not to be harassed online, men don't have a right to expect women to initiate contact with them online.

And this sort of thing happens all the time. Almost any conversation relating to women will result in someone trying to turn the conversation towards men, or calling such conversation sexist for not including men. It's as if we're not allowed to discuss women here except in relation to men somehow.

>If you want men, who experience no initiated contacts to fully understand that women experience large amounts of harassment, might it be critical to approach them with the understanding that they have a completely different experience?

No, it shouldn't be critical. Men who don't experience contact from women should be able to comprehend that women are often harassed despite their own personal experience being different. If anything, such men should perhaps consider that the amount of harassment women receive and the degree of personal contact women are willing to initiate are not at all unrelated.