Ask HN: Is it normal to fall out of love with coding?

First of all, I would say it is absolutely normal to fall out of love with coding, and I wouldn't worry about it! If you're enjoying what you are doing, that's a good thing.

Unlike the top comment, I don't think this has to be a sign of burning out (although it can be) - humans are complex beings. The world changes, and we change as well. What was enjoyable to you 15 years ago may not be as enjoyable now, and what you enjoy now might not be what you will do for the rest of your life. At the same time, if you find that you miss coding, you can always return to it later.

If life pulls you towards a more customer-facing role and you discover that you like it, that's a best case scenario to me! Go for it.

I've been coding since childhood and I'm 38 now - and I have had periods where I did other things and enjoyed that as much if not more than coding. Rediscovering a passion is a great experience in itself, worth having at least once.

It's a sign of burning out. I've felt the same way many times during my career. I started making websites when I was 15 (I'm 33 now) and moved to a management role. When I wasn't coding for the last few months, I realized I missed building stuff. I just quit my job this month and now looking for contract/freelance work.

One thing I realized very late was I needed some kind of hobby outside writing code and spending time in front of a laptop. Go find a hobby: Travel solo, read books, learn to play some sort of musical instrument, learn to cook. Anything helps.

If you like talking to customers, find a developer evangelist job somewhere. You'll get to talk to customers and developers. Else, think about moving to a product management role. Start reading books about product management. You can also fast track your learning by taking some kind of formal education in product management.

The thing that makes you happy when coding is purpose.

Even automating your house so that heating comes on before you arrive has a purpose. Or writing a script to clean up your photos. Or any number of little coding tasks. You do them and you find them enjoyable because they have purpose.

Sometimes with work, you lose that. Often it's because coding isn't seen as anything but a chore that needs to be done towards the business goal. A necessary annoyance, where the real purpose is something that doesn't require coding. And that really kills the enjoyment for a lot of devs.

I had a period where I felt like you. I was working in a dying business, other people weren't supporting it, and it just felt like a death spiral. The only thing to be done was to change track and do something else.

This whole article is great, but the first 2 paragraphs really resonated with me: http://www.loper-os.org/#selection-29.0-44.0

Here's an excerpt:

Sadly, the above scenario is more truth than fiction – for computer enthusiasts. There is a particularly cruel discrepancy between what a creative child imagines the trade of a programmer to be like and what it actually is. When you are a teenager, alone with a (programmable) computer, the universe is alive with infinite possibilities. You are a god. Master of all you survey. Then you go to school, major in “Computer Science,” graduate – and off to the salt mines with you, where you will stitch silk purses out of sow’s ears in some braindead language, building on the braindead systems created by your predecessors, for the rest of your working life. There will be little room for serious, deep creativity. You will be constrained by the will of your master (whether the proverbial “pointy-haired boss,” or lemming-hordes of fickle startup customers) and by the limitations of the many poorly-designed systems you will use once you no longer have an unconstrained choice of task and medium. To my knowledge, no child grows up “playing doctor” and still believes as a teenager (or even as a college student) that an actual medical practice resembles that activity. Likewise, no one has a fully functional toy legal system to play with as a child, and as a result goes into law. On the other hand, “adult” programming, seen from afar, is enough like child-programming to set the computer-enthusiast child up for just this kind of exceptionally cruel bait-and-switch.

Sometimes what you need is change. I am sixty-five years old. I was a programmer for fifteen years, started a consulting company, then a software business. Was acqui-hired. Became VP Product Dev over 27 locations, 1200 developers, hundreds of products, then semi-retired for four years and worked on digital audio production. Got bored, did another startup, wrote code. Sold it and became CTO of a product division. Later worked for an investment group, became CTO for one of their acquisitions for almost ten years. Six years ago went back to technical work on my "reverse career plan" (junior programmer by the time I'm 75 ;-) ). Wrote js/react analytic front-end apps, Python back-end analytics, got into machine learning, co-authored a book about it, got some big data consulting gigs, learned Hadoop/Spark. Currently hands-on dev for Spark and ML apps.

For me, changes were the key. Burnout melts away. But you can burn out in any role. If you have the skills to do tech work, try to keep them alive. Coming back to hands on tech work is incredibly refreshing. So is leaving it behind for awhile when you've reached the burn-out point.

I am programming since my childhood and I am now 44 years old. For a long time I thought that I enjoy programming. Later I realized that what I enjoy cannot be categorized that way. I cannot even easily put it into words, but largely I enjoy solving hard problems, understanding or modeling things sucessfully. It happens sometimes during coding. But in a business scenario unfortunatelly it happens more during designing UX, finding out the business strategy, etc... and coding itself becomes just a boring means to an end. And I think this attitude is quite healthy when I work on a product alone. Because even with this attitude I sometimes geek out and care too much about tech perfection instead of releasing an MVP sooner. For example now I work on a VR 3D modeler side project. I have my own engine instead of using something like Unity, and I care too much about the performance and elegance of my half-edge mesh representation instead of releasing an MVP extremely early and iterating on UX as someone who is entirely not obsessed with coding would do...

Here's my two cents

I haven't so much fallen out of love with coding, but fallen out of love of shiney new things. The last truly "new" thing I jumped on was C#. At the time C# was first released, I was also playing around with Smalltalk, and that actually destroyed me. I couldn't understand why people were excited about all these features in C# as they weren't new.

I became seriously disinterested in new tech, web 2,0, full stack bullshit.

Now I work in Delphi, and I actually love it. All the other guys in my team hate Delphi and would rather be working in whatever is the latest and greatest.

The problem with that is that everything just gets reinvented, and stuff that was old is new again, and the cycle repeats.

That's why I have fallen out of love - I've become a bitter old coder who just uses (and does) whatever requires the most minimal amount of work

Blacksmith. If it was possible to go back in time, I would be a blacksmith. This is my conclusion after working several years as consultant. The last project was horrible, hundreds of thousands of lines in C++ wrote by monkeys in ten years, layers of layers of crap. When I say layers I'm not speaking about architectural layers, but geological layers, like the sedimentation that trap the skeletons of dinosaurs. They introduced control version systems 3 years ago: before they preserved all the revision as comments, into the source files ! Every ten lines of source code, twenty lines of commented old code with the description of who, when and why the code was disabled. That was the time I really desired to die. Honestly, I enjoy myself only with my stuff, rarely at work.

Is it coding in general, or what you've been coding? I've had projects that I thrived on and couldn't get enough of. I woke up actually excited and couldn't wait to get to work. It obsessed me. I wouldn't want to take breaks. I'd work late and time would just pass with me in a zone. What I was doing excited me. It had utility. It had purpose that I could see. It used new tech that challenged me. It was hard work, but very rewarding.

I've also had projects that I absolutely hated. I didn't believe in what the customer was doing, it was the same 'ol thing, etc. Bland. Cookie cutter. Boring. You get a few of those in a row and you question everything. Luckily, as I progressed in my career, I can pretty much pick and choose what I do and can turn down projects without even giving it a second thought, but I had to get to that point.

You're relatively young still. That's not to be demeaning. We go through stages of life. You don't just stop growing and keep the same interests. Maybe you just weren't exposed to a more social role before like you're in now, so you didn't even know you'd enjoy it. There's nothing wrong with changing direction, as long as it's a positive move for you. Only you can know that. It gets harder to change anything about yourself the older you get, so if you're gonna make a change, I wouldn't wait too long.

Yes. When you start out, everything is new and the possibilities seem endless. Whether you're starting your own projects or joining other people's, learning about each new domain or style of programming is exciting. But once you move from exploring to building, it gets to be a lot less fun. It's like the difference between being a tourist in a foreign city vs. getting a job there. You start to notice the poor quality of almost everything around you. Making it better is hard work, and only gets harder as you progress further.

Worst of all, once you've gotten a thing to whatever you consider to be a good state, you're faced with a choice. Moving to a new project/domain might help to regain that feeling of wonder ... until you realize it has problems too and you'll be back to digging ditches in a new field. It also means leaving behind some of your accumulated expertise, which affects both comfort and career prospects. So many people decide to stick with what they're doing even though they're no longer passionate about it, and that's draining in its own way.

I don't think there's any one solution. Some people are quite happy endlessly polishing the same apple. Some people are happy flitting about. Some people are in between, working primarily in one area but taking periodic excursions into others. The key, I think, is to recognize which is true for you and consciously strategize about if/when to change projects to maximize your own happiness.

Anything you do for work eventually wears out and becomes "just work". That's why it's called "work".

Hobby coders can escape into the unrestricted world of building stuff without limits to satisfy their imagination and curiosity. They can also change hobbies and increase or decrease the amount of time they want to spend on coding to stay in the sweet zone.

Paid coders can only carve out little, temporary nooks of freedom within the requirements and demands that come from somewhere that is external. In the best case they can dictate how things shall be built but the "what" part generally comes as given: from the boss, from the CTO, from the company strategy, from the customers if you're an entrepreneur coder.

If it takes 15 years to get bored with coding I can think of a number of professions where it would only take 1.5 months to get bored. Boredom doesn't equal all is lost. It's just a sign to work on something else for a while.

I've recovered the excitement of coding several times, sometimes through hobby coding and something through talking my way into some interesting work project. But your interest needs to spend some time elsewhere before you can find it again in coding.

Try testing, interfacing customers, managing, or change jobs. If you can, try a job that's not in IT to get some perspective. This should be considered an ongoing process anyway as you will be constantly rethinking your place in life anyway. The process might lead away from coding or getting back stronger than ever, but the goal is to find something that makes you tick again. How all that realises itself in practical work life is mostly secondary.

I don't know if this helps you deal with your situation but this is how I would respond if someone asked do I enjoy coding (delivering software is my profession, bread and butter and I code in my spare time as well now and then).

Personally I originally thought coding as something wonderfull akin to music or poetry. Ok, that got me hooked and started. Now as I've matured a bit I see coding (i.e. the typing part where you manually define the syntax tree with some specific language) mostly as ... typing. What nowadays gives me the kicks is the thing that I create by coding and the concepts I can study.

I get no joy in coding, unless I am building something that delivers value. The value can be end user value, personal learning or just a glint of beauty.

But, no, I would say I enjoy just "coding" anymore. To me it feels like asking from a literary author do they enjoy typing. It's a part of process of creating value, but only a part of the process.

When I code in my spare time I don't think I spent the time coding. I think I spent it investigating an algorithm, or delivering a fun software, or solving a math puzzle.

Just like you, I started programming quite young (about 12 when I started) and last year, when I was 26, I was burned out on it for the first time.

It started with me just getting my job done, but not really finding a lot of joy in it anymore and I'm sure the quality of what I did went down as well.

A bit later, I stopped doing side-projects and didn't want to read anything related to it anymore for some time. It was around that time that I realised it's not my job, but the problem was me burning out (I just ended a stressful period in my personal life as well due to a family member passing away).

My solution was to just 'allow' myself to _not_ do anything at home for some time and look for other things to keep myself busy. At first, if I wasn't doing something for side-projects I'd feel guilty, which was an unhealthy attitude.

I started reading fiction (instead of non-fiction all the time) and bought a console for gaming - something I hadn't owned for a decade. Just so I wouldn't be in front of my computer after work, I also took a holiday for a few weeks.

Eventually I started to miss my side-projects, though it actually took a few months before I'd really get into them again. Now I'm only really just getting out of it to be honest, but I'm did rediscover the fun of coding. I'm reading about it again, but alternate between fiction and non-fiction after each book, and I'm having fun programming both at home and at work [most days ;)]

So maybe, as other posters said, you are suffering from (the beginning of) a burn-out. It sucks, but it's not forever.

I've been coding for 37 years now, counting what I did in childhood. I can remember getting a real charge out of doing it. It was a real thrill to be able to tell the machine what to do and see things happen on the screen.

But I don't feel that thrill any more. I know I can build things; I've done so many times before. And frankly, figuring out how to fit new functionality into messy legacy systems isn't much fun. Occasionally, when I manage something very clever, I feel a glimmer of the old thrill of creation, but that's a rare thing.

These days, I'd prefer to do higher-level design and leadership work.

It hasn't happened to me. I started coding in 1982; I'm still doing it. In the meantime I've started four startups (none of which succeeded - I'm a much better geek than I am a businessman - and done a couple of management jobs. But I find I still prefer writing code (and designing systems) to anything else, and I don't at all enjoy being responsible for seeing that there's enough money in the bank to pay other people's wages, so these days I'm just a contract programmer.

I felt the same way after CS, and then working a year as software engineer. And I think it's because of two reasons:

1) I never loved coding (even though I thought so). I loved the process of finding solutions for problems, and solve them. But coding was not the deciding factor in this. The research, investigate what should be done, speaking with customers etc. _This_ I loved. But I did not love coding. All those problems, debugging of code that does not work etc. I'll compare it to an architect drawing the buildings, making sure that they live up to the requirements ("solutioning"). But the architect is not building the building (coding).

2) What I loved about coding in those 10-15 years I was a hobby-programmer before CS, I was working on small, fun projects. They were quick to get working, and then I was quickly moving to the next thing. And I think that is a problem when working as a professional. You get sucked into large projects that (seemingly) never ends. And that's not the spirit you had in the beginning.

Have you tried going to hackathons? I can really recommend it! Having a weekend where you hack with other hackers and do some coding is a really nice way of working, and can get you the spirit back!

So many awesome answers here. I've been through a similar route and have gone on to do a bunch of roles that had tech at their core but were not coding (so think marketing for SaaS, etc.).

I still code, I still keep up, but I get to do that because it's fun and interesting, not because if I don't do it then I can't eat or have a roof over my head. There's a huge happiness difference in wanting to do it and needing to do it.

If like simplifying difficult concepts and explaining them to people you might want to look at a Sales Engineer role. There's a really great YC graduated bootcamp called Flockjay (https://flockjay.com/ and also read through https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=18727360 from a few weeks ago). I've been lucky enough to be accepted for the inaugural batch of students. The whole process with them and the first classes have been so much better than I expected. DM me if you've got any questions.

I burnt out on coding a few years ago because of the painful development process in a professional environment. Dead lines, boring work, bug fixes, politics, micro management, etc. Here is exactly what I did:

1. I quit my full time job (I was working at a FAANG), took a 2 month break in order to travel, work out etc, then I started working on my own projects. I was coding from 7am to 1am from Monday to Sunday, 6 months in a row. This doesn't include coding only, I also worked on UX, marketing, legal, anything involved in building a product from scratch. I enjoyed every minute of it and learned so much...

2. This got me into Product Management. I started focusing on product management only and started bootstrapping the whole thing to iterate on more ideas. It ended up not working so well so I started applying for PM roles. I got some opportunities here and there but they weren't as good as I wanted. Being a Tech lead having to start at the bottom of the PM chain. It felt like I was over qualified for an entry level role and would not get qualified for a Senior PM role because of a lack of "PM" experience.

3. So I went back to coding for a large company as a lead.

4. Quickly transitioned into Management and moved away from coding again.

There you have it. Coding became a second nature but I can't be as productive as I used to be in the past. So why would I try to compete against young and fresh people? I found out I was more valuable in designing systems, optimizing existing infrastructures, asking questions young engineers don't really think about because of a lack of experience. The act of coding per-se isn't for me anymore. That's it. There are many ways to move away from coding without losing all your valuable years of experience.

I've been programming for 20 years, professionally for ~11. I was bored out of my mind 3 years ago until I found a job at GitLab. Turns out the right people can make you love your job. The wrong ones will make you lose your mind.

But this can happen with anything. I've been playing piano for 27 years, went to college to become a concert pianist. I was quite good. Had a bad professor, realized how very far I was from my dream. How far everyone was. I loved the crap out of piano. And I graduated with my degree. But I don't have that nagging desire to be a concert pianist. I think piano is great. Discovered being successful at coding was 100x easier than being successful at piano. And a much more promising future. And I am really good at it. And you don't have to spend hours alone by yourself. You get to talk to and help other people. And your building things that directly help others.

Since moving out of large / enterprise style business and into startup culture I've definitely felt a big shift in my view of my job and role in this industry.

I've shifted my perception of myself from being an engineer/programmer to seeing myself as a product person that happens to use code to express my goals.

I still obviously expect and demand a high standard of code quality from myself, but I'd much rather do one thing every day to improve the life of a customer than wrap myself up in the more esoteric solutions to coding issues. I don't constantly chase new libraries and frameworks and build tools and I don't spend time discussing semantics while pair programming. I value pragmatism above all.

I feel like coding is now 40% ish of my overall skillset and am much better off for it, which seems to bear out in terms of opportunities that have opened up since I've made this change.

Maybe you should try:

- switching from back-end to front-end coding or vice versa?

- switching from plumbing/glueing libraries to applied algorithms research?

- switching from basic administrative software to numerical/scientific computing?

- trying out a new field like machine learning?

- try embedded programming or robotics?

- switch languages, and try something completely different like Haskell?

I started coding for fun while an undergraduate in the late 60's and spent much of my time coding until I recently retired, except for one year when I dedicated my time to directing a project that led to a major system for the company. Most of that time was as a researcher and I had the freedom to use whatever language seemed appropriate. The list grew to dozens (anyone remember Bliss, Metafont, SAIL or the great SIGMA assembler?), finally ending up in Python within Hadoop. Since retirement I've time with J after spending a year or two with APL in the 70's.

I find I'm losing the absolute need to code, but I can't think of anything else that could have offered me the variety, depth and engagement (not to mention a reasonable salary) that coding has over the last 50 years.

Doing same thing over and over is boring whether it's coding or not. I develop and design apps and websites. When I'm fed up with coding, I start designing, working in colors and pixels. I suggest you to improve a side skill so you can switch when you get bored/burned out.

Coding is still fun to me. But the bureaucracy that surrounds it has grown very thick. Finding a team where bs to coding ratio is reasonable is a problem.

It's normal to fall out of love with /anything/, IMO. I fell out of love with playing guitar - I moved to a new city over a year ago, and left my most expensive guitar in its case. Then last month, I bought a bass guitar (I'd always wanted one), fell in love with that, and started playing my guitars again.

I think it's natural to reach a plateau with whatever interests you, where you understand enough that the original challenge is gone, and/or you meet a new challenge that you can't overcome. Change something up, come at it from a different angle and you will probably regain your enthusiasm.

And can I just say, you are the first person I have ever heard say that 'talking to customers' is in any way 'fun'... :)

Once I too felt like that.

Maybe you're just into something different. That's ok.

But maybe you're like me: For my case, it turned out that I was just bored of doing what I'd been doing. I changed my direction and left full-stack development. I started studying machine learning (and lots of other stuff because of it), bought some in-depth books about programming and started reading them. I finally understood the importance of Lisps (yes, the weird syntax has a really good purpose) and started learning Clojure. I'm constantly trying to improve my -functional- programming skills. It feels ok now, I feel like I've found a new path to follow, and see the room for improvement.

I think it's normal, things lose their excitement at some point. That's human nature. You will probably start resenting clients in 10 years. Also - you yourself will change. You will grow older and might find more value in things outside career. Or not, who knows. But don't expect to be the same person 10 years from now. Switching stacks, jobs, challenging yourself with harder roles, taking more responsibility etc are all things that might help. But unfortunately I don't think anything can bring back the joy I used to feel when I succeeded in building my first web app. After doing it professionally for years it loses it's magic.

Sometimes when I"m feeling burnout, I realize I'm actually falling out of love with coding for other people, and for projects I'm not passionate about.

I recently picked up a side project that I've fallen in love with, and can't wait to get off work to start working on my passion project.

One difference I've noticed is that I'm not learning new things with my side project (something I'm traditionally excited about); I'm using what I already know to build something great.

In this project "coding" isn't the end, it's the means to the end I really want- and therefore it's not even about the coding, it's about the project.

That's really interesting, because I share a similar story. I too started coding at 11, but became totally disenchanted with it around the age of 23. I actually went off to start a graphic design/web development company with a friend, where I ended up doing most of the graphic design. I did some coding too, but the design work was my primary focus.

Went on to do some business/psychology studies, trying for years to find a way out of coding that would pay the bills (since that's all anyone would pay me to do). Eventually I started loathing the coding work. I did it, every day, but I loathed it. I had to occupy a lot of my after-hours time with reading and watching interesting videos completely unrelated to software development - especially focusing on psychology and philosophy.

Then, towards my early 30s, in a matter of weeks I had this sudden change of heart. No particular reason that I can pinpoint. I just started loving coding again. I loved being able to make things that made other people's lives better (especially by way of saving them time so they could get to do the really interesting things they wanted to do in life).

I have no idea what drives people's inner sense of "interest" (i.e. what interests people, piques their curiosity and motivates them). It seems pretty far outside of my own control, for me at least. It seems to take a lot of wisdom, introspection, radical honesty and internal negotiation to balance my interests with what genuinely works for me at the time.

I took a similar path and, in my experience, it seems to in fact be more uncommon for someone to maintain a real passion for the day-to-day work of programming long-term. Which is to say I wouldn't worry, but try to focus on finding an interesting and enjoyable next move, whatever that may be; just know that you're young enough to take a few risks and that the job market for engineers is still such that you won't have difficulty getting back on that track should you so choose.

Certainly one of the more predictable paths is moving up into engineering management.

In my case, after experiencing a bit of burnout in my late 20s, I debated between going back to school for an MBA---another common route in this scenario---and trying to find a more customer-oriented role within an interesting technology company. I ended up deciding to join a late-stage startup in order to help found their Solutions Architecture team, which has been an absolutely terrific experience. I could imagine going back to an engineering role in time, but I've enjoyed and learned so much traveling the world to work with a wide range of companies across industries---just long enough to understand their business and (hopefully) help resolve their core difficulties...

Feel free to message me (account @gmail) if you're interested in hearing about my experience or of course if you're looking for a new role (https://stripe.com/jobs/positions/solutions-architect).

>Last year I started my own company and then got acqui-hired into a startup. I realised that talking to customers and solutioning is more fun than wiriting code. How many of you have felt or feel the same way and what are you doing about it?

There's a job title for exactly this - Solutions or Sales Engineer.

I've worked in this role in the past and here's a bit caveat. Due to time pressures your technical skills may (will!) erode and it's very easy to reach the point where you simply become a talking head for a particular vendor's architecture and you hand wave around the hard/technical questions. It's entirely possible to end up in a position where you simply regurgitate the same architecture slide decks over and over.

You have to decide how technical you want to be and how much time you want to spend talking and pick roles accordingly. When a technology is new and probably half-baked (e.g. Hadoop in the early years), you'll be of higher value by having technical skills. When it's mature and has a GUI, being good at selling and demos is more important.

One of the nice things about some (not all) Solution/Sales Engineer roles is that you code enough to enjoy it, but not so much that you find yourself caught up with all the stuff that's needed when you are a full time developer building stuff for production.

First check if its one of these things. (a) Did you always want to start a company, and has the success of acqui-hire made you feel accomplished and thus burnt out motivation to code? (b) Is this your first experience with customers and are you smitten by the novelty of it?

I ask this because I had something relatable but wrt education. For three years, aged 16 to 18, I was deep into science and maths as I wanted to get into mechanical engineering at a good college, and these subjects were the key. I did quite well in the entrance exam and achieved what I aspired for. I was excited and did really well the first semester. Then, per chance, I visited the city library, for the first time, and saw a big hall full of books of all kinds on liberal arts topics. Having been immersed in STEM topics for so long, I was instantly taken in by its charm. I had never seen anything like that before and I indulged in it full time. I lost all interest in my engineering for the next few years, and my grades took a nose dive, but I did come to my senses and recover eventually. After I joined the software industry I had occasional flings of this kind with other topics but my past experience made me more prudent in dealing with them. I take that as a great life lesson.

I've been programming since I was 8. It has always been to me what gaming seems to be to a lot of people.

It's always been a means to exercise my brain and solve interesting problems. An escape from the mundane triviality of life.

I've never been in love with programming just to program. I've always been in love with that "Oh! I get it!" moment when you finally figure something out. The next piece of the puzzle. Forever working towards the big boss of the next level - delivery.

Gaming never held my attention. Programming for me seems to be a never ending journey of discovery, forever chasing that moment of realization. Programming is just a means of expressing my solutions in one of a handful of languages I speak. It just so happens that the languages are technical rather than verbal.

Did you fall out of love with language or did you fall out of love with solving problems? "Solutioning" as you put it isn't any different than programming - you just feel like you need to express your solutions in a different form... a new language. Perhaps it's at a higher level now rather than being stuck in the details.

You're definitely not alone. A big part of what drew me to customer-facing roles in tech was that I found purpose and impact from human connection.

Being able to master technical product, build relationships, solve problems, and find problems that customers didn't know they had has been a really rewarding experience. It comes with its own challenges for sure, and a whole new skillset and language, but the level of impact is huge, and the ability to code helps you relate complex concepts and learn from users.

There's some great research by Adam Grant that debunks the myth that customer-facing roles (ie: tech sales) are for non-technical extroverts. In fact, the most successful tech sales leaders develop technical skills to be thought leaders in their industries.

Happy to chat more - DM me if you have questions. I'm the founder at Flockjay (YC W19 - Tech sales education where the school doesn't get paid until you're hired) - we have amazing engineering talent in our current batch, and past graduates. We help with the transition from engineering/other backgrounds into sales.

Just 5 years ago you were 21. Consider for a moment how your attitude and emotional intelligence was back then. Think back 10 years when you were 16.

It is likely the case that you've come so far and a lot has changed in your life in just a relatively short amount of time. Now, move forward 5 or 10 years and imagine the same amount of change.

What I'm trying to say is... it is perfectly normal to change your interests.

You're probably not falling out of love with coding. You're falling out of love with having to unremember a lot of the things you've learned and replace them with new, unfamiliar things that many times, contradict what you already know.

I started out programming in RPG III on an IBM AS/400, a mini computer. Then had to unremember a lot of that stuff and move onto fat client-server architecture and RDBMSs (visual basic, oracle). Then had to unremember a lot of that stuff and move onto N-tier. (C#, application servers, MS-SQL) Then had to unremember a lot of that stuff and move onto the internet stacks (HTML, CSS , XML, Javascript and so many damn frameworks i cant even count at this point) now, unremembering a lot of that stuff so I can go serverless over at AWS.

try coding in the language/stack you are most comfortable and knowledgable in (even if it's old and out of date) and see if that doesn't rekindle the passion. If it doesn't, then its pre-sales tech support for you my friend.

I started in 7th grade (13 years old?) and I'm 26 now myself. I enjoy coding much more than I used to. Just being able to push things out on a regular basis without getting totally stuck on things makes it all the more enjoyable.

Solving complicated issues at work is satisfying but I still find the most pleasure in my own projects solving little life issues using the tech stack I'm most comfortable with (older, less trendy platforms like Heroku/ExpressJS/Postgres). I love the feeling of an elegantly solved problem that works in a reliable and efficient way. When I invent the projects I am working on, I feel the most control to getting to that point since I can somewhat anticipate my own future feature requests.

What I have been missing lately is having my own home server and tweaking with the server configs and having more control over how my own projects are hosted. S3/Cloudfront are incredible but I miss having an apache server at home doing it for me. One consequence of the laptop age, I guess.

I don't love coding. I love building stuff and coding happens to be one way of building stuff. How much I love building stuff varies from project to project. Thankfully I'm often in a position to choose which projects to take on, although sometimes you don't really know until you start.

It can happen. In my early career I was in the non-profit/NGO space, primarily working with people but then transitioned to a tech role in a couple very large companies. Very recently I have felt the draw back toward a less tech focused, more people focused role. Working on that transition at present.

I concur with other comments that this can be a sign of burn-out. I've been there as well.

However, I never doubt that I'm in the right profession, but I do know that, as a human, I'm bound to have ups and downs with any topic that I'm involved in for longer periods of time just like relationships have ups and downs.

What I chose for myself is to have some activity that is completely different yet very enjoyable for me and I acknowledge that I do it as a balance and reward.

In my case, it's playing the guitar. I reward myself with the occasional gear purchase and generally enjoy studying+playing.

Sometimes, I'm super focused on my job and go slow with music. Other times, I'm super into music and I'm fine with sinking less effort into my job. The idea is that I have where to bounce to when I get a bit disenfranchised with one or the other.

I’ve never fallen out of love with coding, and I can’t imagine that happening. At its core, it’s logical problem solving, and that’s what I was born to do. I’ve DEFINITELY fallen out of love with companies, languages, platforms, etc. though. Perhaps it’s time for a change of some kind?

I sympathize part of your sentiment.

I have been coding for like 10 years now. I feel it has become more .... routine? Coding itself starts becoming a tool for me, a modeling tool that realizes when I speak to it, like I know soundly winter will freeze the water into ice, and fire can turn woods into ashes.

But I think that means for me that coding itself is probably not going to provide more challenges or growth I would expect into next stage of my life. Coding has to been associated with the problem I am trying to solve. After all, understanding a problem then dissecting it into solvable pieces is what is fun. I would try to seek problems at a bigger scale, and maybe that would bring new perspective of coding to me by facing ever growing complexity.

I think a lot of it is coding is gluing stuff together nowadays. It's like being a skilled bricklayer and now you've had a taste of being the foreman and you like it. You still like to make a good wall, but making walls all day gets boring. I understand.

A programmer likes to learn new things all the time and sees the joy in writing the same code in a new language/framework for the n-th time. A problem solver sees that it is pointless. You are just doing the same things over and over again and the shiny new thing is not that special. You must rediscover the joy of learning new things. Try a new language or a hobby. Try some new food. Experience new things. Programming requires true grit because the real work is not that exciting. Coding is just a small part. So you have to accept that to make great things you have to do a lot of boring work. And that great ideas are not worth that much without the ability to implement them.

Good question, good replies. Thanks to OP and others!

IMHO your situation is actually quite positive because you notice the domain you enjoy more, which is communicating with people rather than interacting with computers. Why not just keep moving toward that direction?

I wonder if you have played any games that lack of tactics and don't require you to learn techniques to master, and you can just farm and farm and farm before your level or whatever is enough to conquer the final boss. Monotonous, boring, just like that. If the only reward you get from coding is salary and nothing else, then you should really consider leaving the comfort zone, which is actually what you are trying now, and that's good.

Be honest: would you have taken an answer like "no, it is not normal to fall out of love with coding" seriously? In what theater of life is "permanence" and "unchanging desire" the norm?

Coding is transforming a set of problems into a particular level of abstraction. Higher levels of abstraction exist (team, business model, etc.) and it's perfectly fine to find them more fulfilling and interesting as one goes. I haven't coded in years as a result of being a founder and then CTO of a largish company. I don't miss it because my head is in a completely different place but equally absorbed in solving problems. And people are fascinating - hacking people, groups, teams, customers etc. is much more fuzzy and presents interesting problems as well.

University had killed all passion for conding\software development in me for a few years. I worked in QA for some time, Oracle products consulting\integration and only switched back to development 2-3 years later.

Depends on the coding task.

"Here, make minor tweaks to our established codebase, for stability or for minor enhancement X, our working practices are set in stone, our coding style is ancient and you will have no creative control or input"

Yeah, that's boring, however much you love code.

"Here, we've got some ideas, but they needs to be transformed into a product. You'll be part of a small team making the important decisions and figuring out the best way to take this forward, technology decisions, working practices etc are all up for definition and change, have at it"

This is far more interesting.

Coding, by itself is not the fun part. What you are coding should ideally be fun to you. In my opinion this is a sign that you need to find what you like to make.

For me it is compilers, for some others it is games, etc.

I have taken multi-year breaks from programming several times (network engineer, academic, etc). To me it feels great to have a change of pace and focus. Have been in biz dev role too. After a while that too became boring - same issues, different faces.

The biggest stumbling block in "solutioning" is when the programmers responsible for implementing your vision drop the ball and you have to face the customer and explain the delay, cost over-run, etc. For me that was too stressful over the long-run.

I think what's inevitable is that once you get to a certain level of proficiency, you begin to focus less on writing "good" code and start thinking about what you're actually coding for and what the end game will be.

Once you're experienced, it's pretty hard to find an exciting project that can stoke your fire because you've done it all before. Things just become an exercise.

How often do you get to work on a totally unsolved problem or world changing piece of software?

It's normal to fall out of love with anything.

That said, sounds like you've simply grown. The actual act of writing the code is boring. That's not where the fun ever was. Typing on a keyboard? Yeah, thrill city.

The fun was in thinking and the problem solving; if you no longer get that fun at the point of typing, then of course the typing doesn't seem fun anymore. If the kind of problem you like to solve is now at a broader level, embrace it.

Thats exactly what Ive been feeling recently. But then I realized, we evolved, we grew, thats why our passion might change, and maybe you found a new passion that feel more exciting that coding.

I just written a piece of mind that might help you notice, whats going on with your passion. You can read it at https://link.medium.com/Td65gAxIkT

Are you excited and jazzed about the customer work? Or do you just prefer to do that now over coding? If you’re excited and genuinely enjoying what you do then you should probably allow yourself to just enjoy your new taste(s) and learn and grow in this new area.

If you are simply spending time in this new area over coding then I do think it could be a sign of burn out. In which case, you need to recover.

Definitely. I did it for +10 years and I would hate to go back to coding for a living. Now I'm on the "dark side" as a pentester and breaking stuff instead and I love it.

When you reach the point where you don't want to code outside of work, you've lost the passion and you're slowing starting to deteriorate as a developer. It's time to do something else.

When I was a teenager I loved thrash metal. Now I run away from it.

There was a time I liked to travel. Now I prefer spending my holidays at home or my parent's home, relaxing.

Earlier I used to devour fiction. Now I am more into Non-fiction.

I didn't care about politics, now I do.

Life is just like that. Enjoy what you like now. Cherish the memories of what you used to in the past. And try to not to worry too much about future.

Good luck.

Personally I love coding, but I don't do it primarily for a living. I do work with code daily, but more in the side of quality assurance and DevOps. This I why I can focus to code various things that are interesting for me (multiple open source and personal projects) during my free time. I believe this is big reason for why I still love coding.

I enjoy coding just as much as I did when I started doing it over 30 years ago. I'm a lot less enthusiastic about the things I and my colleagues are asked to build though. All the scandals and exploitative uses of technology that have come to light in the past few years make the field feel much less fun and innocent.

Definitely felt the same way at various stages in my working life. There’s a huge difference between doing something you enjoy as a hobby and doing it as a job. Working life beats the enthusiasm out of you, especially when you’re not always in control of the projects you work on and the software tools you get to use.

I worked for about a year coding and then switched to hardware/firmware. Because frankly I wasn't really happy just turning out code day after day. Code now is just a means to an end.

I have a couple of friends that found they basically hated coding and switched, one to technical marketing and the other fixes machine tools.

I enjoy the craft aspect of software development, trading off between various factors to make maintainable, efficient code.

I've recently joined a project in a language (to be left nameless) with limited abstraction, and thus limited means to perform these trade offs, with the result being noisy code.

My interest has consequently waned.

I like doing both more than I like either one on it's own. Coding in a bubble and discussing through mediators are both sub-optimal and they take away the best part of being a programmer, seeing the user/customer reaction when they get exactly what they wanted from something you built.

So you changed, is that normal? Normal or not normal it does not matter, it's just that life is happening and do you want to explore it or just pass through? If you want to explore changes are inevitable. If you see changes it's a good sign, it means something is happening :)

If you find a new thing that piques your interest, it's probably good; it's not like you couldn't get back to coding if and when the stars align. On the other hand, dwindling passion with nothing to replace it could be a sign of impending burnout.

I've been coding for less time than you. What I've told some people is that I love coding, but I'd rather code solutions for problems I find interesting, like side projects, than to code professionally.

>> But of recently it has started to feel more monotonous and boring.

You mean work has started to feel like.... work?

Any time you make your hobby into a job, it goes from being play to being work and will lose a certain aspect of fun.

No. It is not. The secret to a fulfilling life is to figure out what you like and then do it. A wise man once remarked: "If you are working hard, you are not working at all."

You're 26 and you found something new and interesting to do in the world. This sounds like being 26 to me...

One thing I think is worth considering is why you enjoyed coding to begin with? For some developers it seems to be the craft itself that gives them enjoyment, but IME they are relatively few, and for most people coding is simply a means to some other more highly valued end, be it influence, business impact, money or what not.

For me personally, when I had a lot less experience the attraction was mostly a feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction that I could make a machine do exactly what I envisioned in my mind. As I accumulated more and more professional experience, the source of my satisfaction became increasingly distant from the actual code itself, e.g. analyzing a business need and identifying a technical solution that met it became more satisfying than writing the actual code itself. 10+ years down the line now and in my current role I very rarely write any production code. To the extent that I miss it, it's probably mostly down to nostalgia. I typically get more satisfaction from working with strategic technical problems, enabling developers, doing high-level designs, liaising between tech and other departments, etc.

So TL;DR - yes, it's perfectly normal to find non-coding software development activities more gratifying :)

It’s normal to have emotions, ups and downs, and a life. Coding is part of that.

Let it flow.

What if... programming fell out of love with you?

lol breh at first you will feel like telling your job that you would do it for free :P

tell me more about your company, I'm interested to know what it was about.