Speaking as a survivor myself.

That is on me.

I can't control my first reaction, the feelings of panic, being trapped and so on. I can however choose what I do once I feel those things.

If I try to push responsibility for my safety onto others, or hold others accountable for MY psychological reactions is to insist that they participate in my treatment. It seems to be that if I need to draft my entire community in my treatment I may be going about it in the wrong way.