So you think they are all genuinely bad for startup, correct? The connection we have is a person who has 300+ connections to marketing agencies. He thinks our product can help those reseller's clients. But in reality, those end users will be 3 layers away from us. Again, we have no power right now. What would you recommend? (p.s. I was about to email you, then saw your reply.)
I have, unfortunately, a few dozen experiences of this general type, against one pro-active sale from a reseller.
n.b. My answer for "What is your discount?" is "Nothing for now, but I'm happy to award you a discount retroactive to the first dollar after you hit $100k in volume." This has never blocked a sale from happening because they're not making sales for you, they're inserting themselves into sales that their customer / your end-user has already decided will happen.
In my opinion, you are better off looking for and partnering with someone who has a large email list, or has a large social audience etc that could benefit from using your product and having that person help you in the sales cycle. We have helped others do exactly this and it seems to be the best way to speed up the process. I have had so much success with it for clients, we are using the same method for our new SaaS product we are launching. I expect with their list we will close a small percentage of the users in a 90 day period, but that small percentage is still way more people than I could reach in the same time period. And frankly companies/people love these deals if you have a good product because it makes them look good and helps their brand too, not to mention it adds revenue for them with little work.
Basically, unless you are connected to y-comb, or at least have taken millions in investment, nobody here cares.
If you do find a good forum for these sorts of questions let me know. Otherwise, try patio11. He's one of the good guys. You should email him directly.