Actually the SNI extension
is sent in the clear. That's one of the things TLS 1.3 is supposed to fix. (See e.g.
http://www.ietf.org/mail-archive/web/tls/current/msg10484.ht... for a discussion about how to handle SNI there). You have a point, though, in that the TLS extensions sent by the client might give you some indication with what client you are talking with. I would not hope for it though, and even if, such heuristics are hell of an ugly hack inside the TLS stack.