Ask HN: I love a girl and i cant help it

Love is caring for someone else without requiring anything else in return. It's OK to signal your affection as long as you are willing to do without reciprocity - put your feelings on the table and let events proceed at their own pace.

You don't really know what love is. Posting on HN isn't going to fix this.

You don't know what "love" is - you are infatuated with her, it's your hormones calling upon you to man up!

How come she is sitting next to you? Is this work? class? If she has a choice and chooses to sit next to you, then maybe she fancies you too. Just talk to her about something in common, anything - break the ice. Take it from there. Don't try to rush first base, if it's meant to be you'll waltz together.

Don't read "The Game". Also, you don't love her.

As someone who's batted above and below his league, trust me when I say that being yourself is the only way to lasting commitment/happiness.

On the other hand, if you want to get laid, play the game.

I've tried both paths. The key has always been to be seem genuine.

whats the difference between infatuation and love? is it timeline? do you ask yourself what will you be doing with this person when you're both 75yo? do you want to make a family(of whatever kind;maybe with kids?) with this person? would you still 'love' this person if it looked like the person 2 seats away to the right? and a minor thing..do you have the budget and time to go through the 'dating' thing?

You are going good as of now. Try that Ice cream plate technique once again.

Read "The Game"