Cultivating dissatisfaction is key to doing good work. If you can't bring yourself to say "Man, this sucks, I could do better than that" how will you try to do better?
In fact, research shows people who are motivated more by the fear of loss rather than the hope of gain, in other words, defensive pessimists, are better prepared to handle the obstacles that get thrown in their path. Being negative is the strongest motivation for these people.
The irony of it is humans being wired for negativity sounds like bad news for the optimists. But there's a way to model optimists in terms of negativity too. Optimists have what Keats referred to as high negative capability: they are capable of "being in uncertainties, mysteries, doubts, without any irritable reaching after fact and reason".
As a practical matter, I think it helps to honor both the negative and the positive. Be negative when you are figuring out what you want to fix that's broken, and be positive about bringing yourself to actually do it.
A related study from last year: "Fear as a Disposition and an Emotional State: A Genetic and Environmental Approach to Out-Group Political Preferences" http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/ajps.12016/full
"Fear is a pervasive aspect of political life and is often explored as a transient emotional state manipulated by events or exploited by elites for political purposes. The psychological and psychiatric literatures, however, have also established fear as a genetically informed trait, and people differ in their underlying fear dispositions. Here we propose these differences hold important implications for political preferences, particularly toward out-groups. Using a large sample of related individuals, we find that individuals with a higher degree of social fear have more negative out-group opinions, which, in this study, manifest as anti-immigration and prosegregation attitudes. We decompose the covariation between social fear and attitudes and find the principal pathway by which the two are related is through a shared genetic foundation. Our findings present a novel mechanism explicating how fear manifests as out-group attitudes and accounts for some portion of the genetic influences on political attitudes."
For 99.99% of human history optimistically going for a venture lead to death. Not obsessively focusing on risks was a reliably horrible idea.
It's really only been since the dawn of the industrial age that optimism has been a viable strategy.
This applies to social ambition as well. Not being hyper attuned to your rank in society for most of history was a good way to get run through with a sword.
The part about the criticism of the positivity ratio was particularly interesting because a co-author wrote the brilliant parody of post-modernism published in one of its seminal journals, Social Text (http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sokal_affair).
A critique by Sokal is prima facie intriguing.
I need to go read the original article but the Wikipedia summary is fascinating (http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Critical_positivity_ratio) in specific, Fredrickson and Losada appear to have chosen functional parameters that yield good results, not ones based on evidence.
This is rather interesting. I wonder if this contributes to their low rate of aggressive dreams and positivity. Furthermore, it would be interesting to study if this might somehow be connected with their very "liberal" policies towards sex and drugs, sources of pleasure.
"...even a random snide comment take up most of our psychic space, leaving little room for compliments or pleasant experiences to help us along life’s challenging path."
Here, have a strong cup of toughen-the-fuck-up.
PS: The fact that you're finding this at the bottom of the page and greyed out is a case in point on how HN has fallen in love with self pity. (Not an edit)
Life is tough and many people, possibly most, want to be told that it's not really tough, it's just that you're special which makes it harder for you and this pill and less work/hardship will solve your problem.
It's why the USA is filled with people addicted to and completely anesthetized by various prescription drugs.
Sure, real depression actually exists. But it's rare and I suspect the over-diagnosis we're seeing is more damaging by removing people from active and productive lives than lack of diagnosis.
When last did you hear a doctor tell someone to get regular sleep, eat well, get some exercise and face up the the challenges they're presented?
As a fictional man with a steel jaw and a nose that was never broken in over 50 fights once said "It's not about how hard you can hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and keep going forward"
You might have a point generally, but I think you miss some historical context.
A few hundred years ago, depending on location, if you made a "random snide comment" someone(s) might die. This used to be more serious stuff.
These days we have rule of law, but taking care of your reputation and social respect is certainly one of the things you find not only in the Western world but in all cultures, including among baboons. It is partly genetic.
(Consider all the muscles in your face to communicate and your language facilities; we have had lots of evolutionary pressure to be social with people. That is, if you failed in life or not was to a large degree decided by how you functioned with other people.)
The point is, it is normal, now and historically, to feel destroyed and be motivated by social respect and insults.
There's also a social power in it. We claim that we want to lead via inspiration and charisma, and that carrot-driven approach works at the big-picture level, but most people who succeed in business, day to day, get their way by exaggerating the negative consequences of whatever they don't want. "I want X" is to put yourself out there and risk being called a bike-shedder. "The company is fucked if not-X" makes it sound like you're looking out for the group... unless you do it too often. So much of the tension and negativity in corporate life comes from the accumulations of these phony existential risks (and the bad decisions resulting from people, especially at the top, buying into them).
(This is not to say that one should directly apply the stick, i.e. be a bully. You don't want that. You want to convince people that there is objective harm to the group, out of your control, that will befall it, if not-X is chosen. If you're the one holding the stick, then you'll be seen as an extortionist dickhead, but invocation of external sticks is quite powerful; see: religion.)
Then there's the art of the complain-brag. The best way to diffuse envy of an elevated position is to make it seem like it actually entails a lot of suffering. "I envy you guys on the floor; I just sit in meetings all day." From CEOs to middle managers, people pretend their jobs are unenviable, because it makes the organization more stable that way. But the picture that people end up with is that things are unpleasant from any direction and unlikely to get better. Plenty of people do like their jobs, but they're not allowed to say as much to the plebs. People will tolerate much more inequality if the people above them in the ranks appear not to be enjoying the position.
>> A teaspoon of sewage in a barrel of wine makes a barrel of sewage.
To be realistic, it makes a barrel of (maybe a bit cheaper) wine; alcohol kills bacteria.
(As someone that eats lunch at restaurants most of my life, I avoid reading about kitchen hygiene. Laws and sausages, etc.)
Edit: I didn't realize it, but I guess I am a typical example of cynical negativity. That alcoholic drinks are safe to drink is a feature, not a bug. And while not much of an oenophile, I do enjoy a glass of dry Spanish red. Just don't tell me about the sewage spoon.