"Optional" fields (ones that don't take space on the wire at all) are not clearly much of an advantage. The usual use of optional fields in Protobufs was to emulate unions, which Protobufs itself never supported directly, but Cap'n Proto does. Also, when wire size really matters, Cap'n Proto offers a very fast compression pass which deflates zeros, and unset fields are always zero, largely mitigating this issue.
The lack of VS support in Cap'n Proto is of course a very fair criticism, and a huge sore point in Cap'n Proto adoption. MSVC is finally catching up in its C++11 support so I hope this can be solved soon.
(Disclosure: I'm the author of Cap'n Proto, and also the former maintainer of Protocol Buffers.)