Management doesn't hate IT, they hate cost centers. Like patio11 says above do not be a programmer, but be someone who generates revenue (or cuts cost) using software. Align your interests with managements interests of cost saving and revenue generation and management will love you.

It is not always easy though. A lot of management simply does not understand what is possible with IT. That is where the communication angle comes in (and business savvy). It is ITs job to not just do the work, but to help the business understand what is possible with great IT work. Having a great IT department working with business can be a huge multiplier and competitive advantage when done properly.