From this perspective, dating websites (and this one especially) are just horrendous. They have a very high price for each interaction: women waste time reading many messages, men waste time sending many messages.
I am betting that a couple of days talking to random strangers on the street gives you more results than months spent on these sites.
I'd say everything on that list except for coffee and maybe drinks is a sucker's bet.
What's the deal with "popular" as an adjective, anyways? It seems like a habit of putting people into categories like a cliche high school movie.
Sure, no disagreement here. I'm not defending anyone who thinks gifts or display of wealth are appropriate or necessary to get a date, just stating the fact they often increase your chance with women (maybe men as well, I don't have experience with that).
The thing that strikes me when people talk about relationships, they often pretend materialistic motives are some imaginary and mostly bad thing. In the real world, wealth (self-sufficiency) is (and has always been) a pretty strong factor for desirability.
>> What's the deal with "popular" as an adjective, anyways? It seems like a habit of putting people into categories like a cliche high school movie.
By 'popular' I mean 'attractive' for whatever reason (intelligent, funny, good-looking, etc). Or in other words: not likely to be short on attention from potential dates. I don't think of it as a high school cliche.
(For the avoidance of doubt, by 'hit it off' I mean 'got on well with').
Bribing people is a really good way to get bad dates. You have no idea of your shared interests, personalities, nothing at all to gauge whether you are of compatible attractiveness.
I've read somewhere that a significant fraction of modern relationships (a third?) start online. And they tend to be relatively stable. There's clearly something to be said for discussion interests before looking at the picture.
Once a bribe is accepted, it is up to the members to communicate and plan the details of the date. Even after bribe acceptance, some dates may not happen.'
- There is something gloriously appropriate about this being in the FREQUENTLY asked questions.
