What makes someone creepy has nothing to do with the guy who comes off as creepy. Creepiness is an internal experience indicating that you (the person feeling creeped out) are uncomfortable and disturbed.

In this case, I would hazard most straight guys who read this article and feel disturbed are disturbed that someone can induce a state of homosexual attraction within them. Further, aside from the obvious fear of homosexual attraction, there's also the empathy for women who are subjected to methods like this.

It's easy to rationalize some form of this behavior as "fair game". Would you still consider it fair game if you put yourself in that Marine's shoes, or in a woman's shoes, being subject to methods like this? Maybe, maybe not.

The sociopath sees his victims as an object, as something that he can play with and exercises his power. He gets off on being able to take a straight guy -- and I suppose, one idealized in the form of an ultra-macho Marine -- and seduce him, the power to turn him into something he is not. (Then kill him).

No one likes being treated like an object.

I've seen this kind of rationalization in many of the pick-up artist material, rendering the person into an object. Sometimes, the rationalization covers up their own sense of helplessness and impotency ("Stop putting women on a pedestal!" "Some people are afraid of the power of these techniques!") But that covers up the main issue: there's a particular shadow side to masculinity, where lust consumes the brain and the person who attracted you stops being a person and becomes an object to fulfill that lust. Further, it is related to another shadow side, that men want to feel that they have power over women and can conquer them. (And likewise, some women know this and exploit this emotional vulnerability).

There is some wisdom in the sociopath, in particular, being detached from being consumed by impulses and emotions. Sociopaths though, lack empathy. They lack the ability to feel as others do, and so will do some destructive things.

It's entirely possible to use the methods from the PUA community with empathy (and perhaps, compassion) ... but you know, in order to do that, you first have to get in touch with your own emotions. Most men tend to be wimpy about going deep within themselves or surrendering to truth and wisdom.

> how much safer would this guy be if they'd done the standard 'Hey, you're cool, let's add eachother on Facebook' or 'Can you text me your address'? A minimal digital 'paper trail' would probably give a guy like this a lot of pause, and if he'd been hesitant/weird about those interactions, it'd probably be even more of a clue for even a young guy.

I guess being a serial killer is an iterative process. You start clumsy, and develop the technique. You probably lack the inhibitions that stop you from psychological experiments on people.

I'm sure a plausible liar could persuade me that there was a reason not to give me facebook ("oh, hey, my mom is on there, and she'd ask me questions about all the guys I keep adding" would probably work on me) or other interactions.