I can't speak for OP, but you insist on reading it as a criticism, when it seems to me more of a question in the spirit of scientific inquiry - at what times does a user of the "vocal fry" consider it appropriate? In the linked interview with Zooey Deschanel, she's not using it with every word she speaks. So I think it's natural for someone unfamiliar with this speech pattern to wonder why it's used in some places and not others. Is that a verboten question?

I'm sorry if you feel I spoke too stongly, but if so it is because I feel strongly that your attempt to impute moral value to a vocal feature you know little about is unfounded and frankly oppressive.

If you'd like to have a conversation about that, you can start by defining your terms: Who or what "warrants" an arbitrary feature of your speech in whatever way you feel the fry is "unwarranted"?