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0 pointsaaronbrethorst13y ago0 comments

I picked my girlfriend[1] of four years up at a bar. After a few dates, she broke it off with a guy she'd been dating casually who she met through Match.com.

[1] Ivy-educated, Ph.D.-holding, tenured professor girlfriend.

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jonnybu13y ago· 3 in thread

Do you not count that as her cheating on you?

gimeq13y ago

She became a girlfriend after she broke it off with the guy from Match.

aaronbrethorstOP13y ago

No, why would I? He and I both knew that she was going on dates with more than one person. There's no scandal. In fact, I'd be a bit worried about immediate overcommitment otherwise.

EvanKelly13y ago

I wouldn't worry about those comments (I'm sure you aren't). A lot of people don't seem to make a firm distinction between dating and relationships.

The whole reason "becoming exclusive" is a thing/phrase, is because it's acceptable and expected to "date" multiple people.

hnriot13y ago· 1 in thread

Ivy educated and a two timer. How will you feel when she dates the next guy and after a few dates dumps you?

I don't see the need to brag about her education? Was that in some way relevant? It sounds like you might be feeling like you need to compensate for her to timing behavior.

aaronbrethorstOP13y ago

> Ivy educated and a two timer.

Seriously? That's uncalled for. I hope you were just having a really shitty day, or something, and didn't actually mean to insult both me and my girlfriend.

Obviously, what I wrote wasn't clear enough. Read the other responses.

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