It's always hardest to see flaws in oneself. Do I come across as telling people what to do? I try to avoid that (outside my specific expertise), but I'm constantly worried I've failed.

Is it that I think I'm better than Dustin? That's a tougher one; I'm hardly any less privileged; I think I'm less condescending. Being proud of one's humility is a trap, but that doesn't mean one should never call others out on their arrogance.

Is it the hate? I'd like to be more constructive, but I think there's still value in being honest. There is a risk of a negative impact here, but the worst obvious case is that I upset one person and have no other effect.