My opinion is: there is and there will never be a way to clearly distinguish between 'gender neutral' and 'gender biased' actions when those actions are not clearly violent or degrading or insulting. So please do not use a word which has no meaning as though it had one and a clear-cut one.

I gather I had made myself clear in my last post: there is no such thing as 'gender bias' in 90% of what the OP claims.

Trying to force language on others (like 'gender biased behavior') is worse than what you call 'nitpicking'.

Edit: You may be confusing 'nitpicking' with 'irony'.