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0 pointskeybored9d ago0 comments

I reach for my revolver when someone says that they are a better leader. That might mean that they have a captive audience of sycophants.

The outdated sense of leader of the willingly lead is a different matter.

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digitaltrees9d ago· 2 in thread

Why such a strong reaction? Do you think good leaders exist?

I have received multiple emails from alumni thanking me for my leadership, mentorship, and the culture I created. Leading is a skill like any other it can be improved with practice and I have worked hard at it.

My team has no problem disagreeing with me and knows I don’t want sycophantic agreement, they know that even if I ultimately make a decision I will consider all opinions and have seen me change my mind in response to a direct report disagreeing with me in public.

There are known mechanisms to foster a safe and effective environment like that such as separating people from ideas, removing consequences for failure and commitment to experimentation.

keyboredOP9d ago

There’s not much to it. There’s a difference between performed N and N as reported by the performer.

mettamage9d ago

Why reach for a gun? You want to kill people that proclaim to be better leaders because of a self-help book? I know people drew guns for less but this is the first time I am reading something like this on HN.

I’d suggest you’d read a few books so that you don’t have to reach for your gun but can use your words instead. Though the moment you’d claim any of those books helped you will be a bit of an ironic moment but so be it.

I recommend Non-violent Communication by Rosenberg for you. It got me out of a few pickles (arguments). Also going to a meditation retreat helps.

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adaml_6239d ago· 1 in thread

Tell us about this good leader concept and why you think it's outdated? Is it just uncommon?

And why can't you believe someone's statement about themselves? How is it different to saying they're a good runner?

keyboredOP8d ago

Thank you for demonstrating leadership on this topic. Maybe that illustrates the point.

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