TBH I think I've seen more database use than not specifically because it serves as the central race-resolver in a system, because doing that anywhere else is many, many times harder and more mistake-prone. Fancy querying has been much less needed (and is sometimes a significant code smell), and is often fully offloaded into a data warehouse style system to reduce the risk.

Sometimes though, yes definitely. It's hard to claim anything universal at all about databases.

(Unless you mean "being able to choose between different isolation levels", then yes, completely agreed. Very very few use anything but the default, somewhere below serializable, and it always concerns me unless they can describe exactly what they're intentionally allowing and why it's okay for their system. Most cannot.)