What you describe as how I raised my two oldest kids and how I'm raising my youngest who is now 10. The two older ones are productive members of society who have never done a mean thing to anyone in their life.

The only thing I did differently is I completely banned Disney and I didn't really have a TV in the house. A communal display that sometimes had tv shows on it, but my houses have not had televisions since mission accomplished in 2003.

I'm not saying my way is right, or your way is right, or everyone else's way is right or wrong. I'm just saying: me too, man.