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0 pointsclutter555615d ago0 comments

None of this prohibition works. Kids will find ways around it, authorities will get stricter, rinse and repeat. A total shitshow.

A lot of people mentioning off-license/booze/tobacco like that was a success story. It isn’t. Outside main/high streets, kids manage to buy stuff just fine. Success requires enforcement, constant vigilance and heavy penalties. Not applicable to Meta at al.

Social media is a drug. Just like crack, making it illegal won’t make it go away. Only education can change this. Unfortunately, we now have multiple generations hooked on it, so I’m not sure this is even possible anymore.

I blocked all social media on my daughter’s phone until she turned 17. I am/was a massive control freak. Guess what happened after that?

I still have control over her apps. I still won’t let install snapchat and every other crap app she asks for. She understands it is for her own good, but none of that matters when “all her friends use it.”

The first iPhone went on sale when she was born. Obama was elected when she was a baby. The world sucks right now.

Rant over.

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noosphr5d ago

Jesus christ. Your poor kid. This is how you rise someone that will never talk to you once they turn 30.

clutter55561OP5d ago

I let her have WhatsApp when she was 13. She’s autistic and couldn’t disconnect at all. Her friends got pissed off with her because of something that was said on a chat. She lost her friends at school and ended up being bullied. Masked pretty well too, so when we found out it was too late. Missed years of schooling. I’m pretty sure she will be living with me once she turns 30, so yeah she will be talking to me alright.

mothballed5d ago

Being quietly hated is blissful on the range of ways children can mess with you. If the worse reason they can come up with is hating you because you didn't give them enough free shit in the form of electronics or apps then you're doing pretty good. There will always be a reason why a vindictive person can choose not to talk to you.

At that age I had a half-time job and bought my own shit, except rent. A 17 year old should be doing that if they want their own non-locked-down phone. If they aren't, they should be thankful for whatever they are getting beyond bare necessities.

noosphr5d ago

Bloomers bought their houses at 20 and had families by 22. Things change and for the last 50 years they haven't changed for the better.

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k12sosse5d ago

Wonder if she has a burner phone so she can talk to her friends. You've probably made her paranoid enough to know better than connect it to your wifi.

clutter55561OP5d ago

I don’t know if you are a parent of teenagers. Where I live in the UK, teenagers don’t use phone. They only communicate via chat. Relatively large sample (several schools, year groups, ages, etc) but single area.

If you don’t have kids, maybe don’t speak pejoratively about the difficulties in raising children nowadays.

If you do, try to be a bit more empathetic.

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noosphr5d ago

Jesus christ. Your poor kid. This is how you rise someone that will never talk to you once they turn 30.

clutter55561OP5d ago

mothballed5d ago

noosphr5d ago

Bloomers bought their houses at 20 and had families by 22. Things change and for the last 50 years they haven't changed for the better.

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k12sosse5d ago

Wonder if she has a burner phone so she can talk to her friends. You've probably made her paranoid enough to know better than connect it to your wifi.

clutter55561OP5d ago

If you don’t have kids, maybe don’t speak pejoratively about the difficulties in raising children nowadays.

If you do, try to be a bit more empathetic.

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