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0 pointsnicbou2mo ago0 comments

Empathy, getting along with people, seeking mutual benefit are also valuable skills.

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benj1112mo ago· 2 in thread

You see I've never found those are the social skills that get rewarded. More arse licking the boss, or not pointing out that bad idea is a bad idea, or taking credit for someone else's work.

So yeah maybe getting along with the right people... And mutual benefit with the right people.

ipaddr2mo ago

It's all part of getting along. If feedback that ideas are bad is not welcome why would you want to give it?

Being nice to everyone including your boss elimates a lot of problems.

Taking credit for someone elses work gives you additional power over that person and them additional responsibility when things go wrong.

Your boss will take credit for the departments work, his boss will do the same, her boss will do the same the vp will do the same. Their job is to get everyone under them to meet someone goal set by above. Everyone is taking credit for everyone elses work all the way up the chain. We do this as parents my child made the honor roll you might tell a friend knowing it reflects on you.

benj1112mo ago

Yes but you're recasting my complaints as good things.

Many elements of an abusive relationship can be good, but it's the degrees that make them bad. Would you tell someone they weren't in an abusive relationship because the things they told you about could be good? Or would you accept their feelings on the matter?

hackable_sand2mo ago· 1 in thread

If someone is "learning" those to keep their job then yeah I'd say that's a huge red flag

nicbouOP2mo ago

That was not the question being asked

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