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0 pointsembedding-shape2mo ago0 comments

> Honestly, it seems you are grumpy, so it was probably a good idea to extend that vacation. Being rude just creates a more toxic environment for everyone. Maybe extend that break for the rest of the month and come back nicer? Thanks

Honestly, it seems like both of you were feeling a bit "grumpy" at the moment, but sending passive aggressiveness towards the maintainer you are trying to get to merge your code (or not your code, someone else's code?) seems like a very bold strategy regardless.

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Daviey2mo ago· 5 in thread

You know, when I wrote that I genuinely meant it, or at least I think i did. It wasn't supposed to be passive aggressive. :(

But that doesn't negate the maintainer talking to people like that (and taking contributions without attribution).. and the net result is I don't want to use the software, and frankly they probably won't miss me.. so the end result is neutral.. I just find it sad.

raincole2mo ago

> Maybe extend that break for the rest of the month and come back nicer?

Quite sure most (perhaps >99%) adult people would consider this passive aggressive.

But yeah, I agree with you for the rest part. Why did Mario assume that bot is you...?

ZeWaka2mo ago

if a human showed up directly under some bot bullshit pinging me I'd assume they were the bot operator as well

sodacanner2mo ago

I'm not sure how you'd be able to interpret that as anything other than passive aggressive.

brazukadev2mo ago

> You know, when I wrote that I genuinely meant it, or at least I think i did. It wasn't supposed to be passive aggressive. :(

That's a great opportunity for self reflection.

Daviey2mo ago

Yeah, I take that. I've thought about it much of this evening.

I think at the time I was frustrated, it felt unfair and I couldn't understand it.

Then I thought,this guy probably does need more time off. Which was a genuine thought.

But that is where I should have stopped. The way i expressed it, whilst genuine thought, was expressed in a way which was passive aggressive. I am owning that.

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