You're going to be really disappointed when you go to look at new ICE vehicles. This "EVs are a privacy nightmare!" trope needs to die, all cars do that now.

I don't want a door handle that can't open in an emergency.

Only one car manufacturer to my knowledge has that problem, just don't buy one of those. Again, nothing to do with electric cars.

I certainly don't want a touchscreen through which all controls are routed.

So far, other than the poorly-designed door handles of one manufacturer, nothing you've listed is unique to EVs. All you've done is describe "most new cars".