i mean, if you want it, then do it. if not, then there's nothing to be sad about.
IOW,
"I am I, and you are you. I do my thing, and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. If by chance we meet, it's beautiful. If not, it can't be helped." — Fritz Perls (1893–1970), 'The Gestalt Prayer' (rephrased)