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0 pointssolumunus4mo ago0 comments

I can’t understand what you think their argument is. This response doesn’t seem relevant to theirs.

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I’m pretty sure the retort was aimed at the patronizing bit here:

> but ignores the tough question of the individual responsibility not to have more children than one can afford.

Which seems quite relevant. The only fool-proof plan for anyone is to have zero kids, which is ridiculous.

My wife and I live beneath ours means, save as much as possible, live debt free, and we instead try to afford as much as possible for the kids.

A job loss or major accident/medical problem where we survive is terrifying from a financial PoV.

mytailorisrich4mo ago

Nothing patronising in my comment... it's common sense.

Unfortunately it almost customary here that any comments be interpreted in the most negative way possible for some reason. Perhaps to avoid discussion or, indeed, the tough, uncomfortable questions.

jabberwhookie4mo ago

Your comment is completely patronizing. Every child who needs help has parents who should know better and let's make them suffer.. Not because it is rational or even meets the objectives of the community but because we should be a community that is mean spirited.

GeoAtreides4mo ago

no, the other posters are right, your comment was not only patronising but terrifying in its implications.

nobodyandproud4mo ago

I have no dog in this fight, but your intent matters less than what it signifies: The comment is patronizing in the abstract, because it’s out-of-touch.

That’s the best interpretation, and the response still fits if less harshly worded.

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nobodyandproud4mo ago

I’m pretty sure the retort was aimed at the patronizing bit here:

> but ignores the tough question of the individual responsibility not to have more children than one can afford.

Which seems quite relevant. The only fool-proof plan for anyone is to have zero kids, which is ridiculous.

My wife and I live beneath ours means, save as much as possible, live debt free, and we instead try to afford as much as possible for the kids.

A job loss or major accident/medical problem where we survive is terrifying from a financial PoV.

mytailorisrich4mo ago

Nothing patronising in my comment... it's common sense.

Unfortunately it almost customary here that any comments be interpreted in the most negative way possible for some reason. Perhaps to avoid discussion or, indeed, the tough, uncomfortable questions.

jabberwhookie4mo ago

GeoAtreides4mo ago

no, the other posters are right, your comment was not only patronising but terrifying in its implications.

nobodyandproud4mo ago

I have no dog in this fight, but your intent matters less than what it signifies: The comment is patronizing in the abstract, because it’s out-of-touch.

That’s the best interpretation, and the response still fits if less harshly worded.

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