This is a myth, from the old days when BEAM was the only thing that could juggle thousands of "processes" without losing performance, and even back then, people routinely missed that while BEAM could juggle those thousands of processes, each of them was individually not that fast. That is, BEAM's extremely high performance was only in one isolated thing, not high performance across the board.
Now BEAM is far from the only runtime juggling that many processes, but it remains a relatively slow VM. I rule-of-thumb it at 10x slower than C, making it a medium performance VM at best, and you want to watch your abstraction layers in those nicer languages like Gleam because further multiplicative slow downs can really start to bite.
The first serious Go program I wrote was a replacement for something written in Erlang, there was no significant architectural improvement in the rewrite (it was already reasonably well-architected), and from the first deployment, we went from 4 systems, sometimes struggling with the load spikes, to where just one could handle it all, even with BEAM being over a decade more mature and the Go clustering code being something I wrote over a few weeks rather than battle tested, optimized code.
BEAM is good at managing concurrency, but it is slowish in other ways. It's better than the dynamic scripting languages like Python by a good amount but it is not performance-competitive with a modern compiled language.
