Uncountable need not mean more. It can mean that there are things that you can't figure out whether to count, because they are undecidable.
> I guarantee that a naive presentation doesn't actually include the axioms
But you said "modern math courses". Are you now talking about a casual conversation? I mean the OP's story is that his wife just liked listening to him talk about his passions. > Uncountable need not mean more.
Sure. But that doesn't mean that there aren't differing categories. However you slice it, we can operate on these things in different ways. Real or not the logic isn't consistent between these things but they do fall out into differing categories.If you're trying to find mistakes in the logic does it not make sense to push it at its bounds? Look at the Banach-Tarski Paradox. Sure, normal people hear about it and go "oh wow, cool." But when it was presented in my math course it was used as a discussion of why we might want to question the Axiom of Choice, but that removing it creates new concerns. Really the "paradox" was explored to push the bounds of the axiom of choice in the first place. They asked "can this axiom be abused?" And the answer is yes. Now the question is "does this matter, since infinity is non-physical? Or does it despite infinity being non-physics?"
You seem to think mathematicians, physicists, and scientists in general believe infinities are physical. As one of those people, I'm not sure why you think that. We don't. I mean math is a language. A language used because it is pedantic and precise. Much the same way we use programming languages. I'm not so sure why you're upset that people are trying to push the bounds of the language and find out what works and doesn't work. Or are you upset that non-professionals misunderstand the nuances of a field? Well... that's a whole other conversation, isn't it...
When I say "modern math courses", I mean like the standard courses that most future mathematicians take on their way to various degrees. For all that we mumble ZFC, it is darned easy to get a PhD in mathematics without actually learning the axioms of ZFC. And without learning anything about the historical debates in the foundations of mathematics.
If instead you're talking about experts then I learned about what you're talking about in my Linear 2 course in a physics undergrad and have seen the topic appear many times since even outside my own reading of set theory. The axiom of choice seems to have even entered more main stream nerd knowledge. It's very hard to learn why AoC is a problem without learning about how infinities can be abused. But honestly I don't know any person that's even an amateur mathematician that thinks infinities are physical
To be fair, constructivists tend to prefer talk about different "universes" as opposed to different "sizes" of sets, but that's all it is: little more than a mere difference in terminology! You can show equiconsistency statements across these different points of view.
So the care that intuitionists take does not lead to any improvement in consistency.
However the two approaches lead to very different notions of what it means for something to mathematically exist. Despite the formal correspondences, they lead to very different concepts of mathematics.
I'm firmly of the belief that constructivism leads to concepts of existence that better fit the lay public than formalism does.