Glad I'm not the only one with that issue. I ended up connecting a Bluetooth controller to my Steam Deck because holding it hurt my wrists so much. At that point, why bother with the thing?
I do the same with my Switch 1— just set the thing up with its kickstand on the tray table and use a normal pad. No amount of slide-on grips or whatever else really make the joycons usable for more than a few minutes with adult hands.
