It’s “felt slighted” that makes me wonder how often you get into arguments that escalate “for no reason.”

Having access revoked with no heads up is a slight. You’re goddamned right they feel slighted. They were slighted.

“Feel slighted” is like “I’m sorry you’re upset”. You put everything on the aggrieved party when you say it like that.

> Everything you're quoting is from one aggrieved person, who clearly felt slighted, and who left out a whole lot of context in their own post.

^ This was a personal attack.

Ah, you're constructively accusing the author of "[leaving] out a whole lot of context". Non-derogatorily.