Your team should settle on a maximum line length independent of which tab settings one has

Of course that will always be a compromise, either people who use narrow tab widths or those who use wide ones will have a (slightly) suboptimal experience.

That feels both largely irrelevant and false? False, because there are plenty of large projects that do have a house style but don’t use a formatter at code submission to enforce it—even if you reject the Linux kernel as an atypical example, basically every piece of commercial software from 20 years ago also fits, simoly because both formatters and presubmit checks weren’t nearly as common, and there were some chonkers there (like, I don’t know, Windows XP). Irrelevant, because it’s perfectly possible for a formatter to follow this convention (gofmt does, for example).