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0 points__MatrixMan__11mo ago0 comments

Uhh, nothing I guess. You need two fish for friendship (nevermind that bettas are too aggressive for that). With a fish and a mirror you only have one fish.

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alganet11mo ago

For friendship you need someone who doesn't talk like that.

Once you have been exposed to this kind of paranoid thinking, there is no way of building relationships of any kind anymore. It is like a spiritual death.

What is the bubble? The world of friends and healthy relationships, or the cold shitty place with cultural wars and divides everywhere?

If you bring someone to the shitty place, you better have the guts to acknowledge that that person will never, ever see friendship anywhere.

__MatrixMan__OP11mo ago

Wow, you see absolutes everywhere. Exposed once, spiritual death. World of friends, world of wars--pick one. It's all more complex than that.

Some relationships are easy because nobody is trying to sabotage them, others are hard because somebody is, others are hard for entirely different reasons. It's the middle case that I'm concerned with here. I agree that it's a pretty awful thing to harm a friendship by injecting it with unnecessary culture war bullshit but my claim is that in most cases it's neither of the friends who want that outcome, it's some remote third party who has decided to interfere. Sure it's a failing of one friend or the other if they take the bait, but they have not spiritually killed the other by doing so.

alganet11mo ago

That is irrelevant.

I can see the "complexity" of the world just as clear as the absolute points of view.

It's a choice. If I recover and see beauty again, it means it was all fine. It wasn't, it will never be.

People who use social triggers must not get away. There will be blood on their hands, and there is nothing that can be done to avoid it or hide it.

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alganet11mo ago

For friendship you need someone who doesn't talk like that.

Once you have been exposed to this kind of paranoid thinking, there is no way of building relationships of any kind anymore. It is like a spiritual death.

What is the bubble? The world of friends and healthy relationships, or the cold shitty place with cultural wars and divides everywhere?

If you bring someone to the shitty place, you better have the guts to acknowledge that that person will never, ever see friendship anywhere.

__MatrixMan__OP11mo ago

Wow, you see absolutes everywhere. Exposed once, spiritual death. World of friends, world of wars--pick one. It's all more complex than that.

alganet11mo ago

That is irrelevant.

I can see the "complexity" of the world just as clear as the absolute points of view.

It's a choice. If I recover and see beauty again, it means it was all fine. It wasn't, it will never be.

People who use social triggers must not get away. There will be blood on their hands, and there is nothing that can be done to avoid it or hide it.

j / k navigate · click thread line to collapse