If multiple services require you to use the same identifier then those accounts are trivial for anyone to find and link.

The existence of alternative services with different terms does not address the issues raised in this thread. Neither does it change the fact that I think the existence of real name policies makes society worse. Of course I'm going to complain about that.

> Just use it as a modern telephone book.

Other people upload information about me into said book. There are various things that I can't do unless I use said book and those have nothing to do with looking up contact information.

It would be bad enough if the only issue were that the provider of the telephone book could every contact lookup. Unfortunately that is but the tip of the metaphorical iceberg.

Nir Eyal would like a word

>If following the platform's basic guidelines feels like too much effort,

That's the straw elephant in the room

>perhaps the communication wasn't that important to begin with.

And this is the particularly dehumanizing part

>entitlement

Is that what entitlement is? Preferring to avoid using the services of an unethical vendor if possible? Or is the entitlement in the "being able to afford to avoid..."?