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0 pointstaysix1y ago0 comments

> I’m less empathetic than I might be because I came into the office 5 days a week for 30 years. My wife also worked. We raised three kids. I went to night school. It’s all very doable, and honestly not that hard.

To me this sentiment reads as "It sucked for me, therefore it needs to suck for you too. Feel the pain of previous generations!"

What happened to wanting to make life BETTER for people? Better for the next generation?

As someone that would complain about RTO mandates if I had to, I know that it's do-able, but does it make my life better? No, it doesn't.

Imagine your last 30 years of not having to go in 5 days a week? Think how much more time you would have had to do all the things you listed: raise your kids, spend time studying night school, etc. How much further ahead would you have gotten with that extra time?

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JackFr1y ago· 1 in thread

> To me this sentiment reads as "It sucked for me, therefore it needs to suck for you too. Feel the pain of previous generations!"

I explicitly say it didn’t suck and it wasn’t painful.

javcasas1y ago

What sucks and is painful is in the eye of the beholder.

Enjoy your kinks, but don't force them upon others

II2II1y ago

The first thing that stuck out to me (emphasis added):

>> When I plead with my direct reports to please comply with the company policy of in the office 3 days a week

Someone higher up is the decision maker here. They are acknowledging a lack of empathy while implementing those policies and trying to explain why they may lack empathy in the process. Yet, at the end of the day, they are simply one of the people who has to ensure compliance.

> Imagine your last 30 years of not having to go in 5 days a week?

There are likely a lot of managers out there arguing against company mandates. The thing is, it is difficult to discuss their struggles with higher levels of management without creating a negative impact (or a negative impact of a different sort) in the workplace. So they have to carry out the orders without actually discussing how they feel about those orders with their reports.

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