Apart from, maybe, Linux distros, neither Apple or Microsoft are providing anything to handle updates that isn’t a proprietary store with shitty rules.

For sure the rules are broken on desktop OSs but by the meantime, you still have to distribute and update your software. Should the update be automatic ? No. Should you provide an easy way to update ? I’d said that at the end it depends on if you think it’s important to provide updates to your users. But should you except your users or their OSs to somehow update your app by themselves ? Nope.