At least where I live men work more hours than women at almost any point in life if you include everything like household chores etc. Women still say men should do more, so them asking for that doesn't mean they actually do more.

This is very prone to cultural differences so could be different where you live.

These generalizations make no sense person-wise. Everyone has their own set of shoulds, don’ts and do-it-myselves. There’s no single law with all the bullet points.

That said, your usual selection contains [too] many people’s shoulds and don’ts, on both sides.

Root comment in this light basically boils down to I do everything myself and don’t need anyone to break this perfect system. Which is reasonable, imo. If there’s no synergy by design and a person is okay alone, that’s reasonable.

Like I said, women don't want to self-reflect.

Many have this perception that they are contributing far more than they actually are, and they come up with narratives like this to justify that false perception.