I mean , there does come a point of asking about the legacy. Yes , Richard stallman has created gnu which is great. But not everybody has such legacy. Not everybody can have such legacy.

Having children / treating them well / them treating you well when you are old is great imo , and when we eventually die , we know that there would be a deep legacy left to somebody.

Yes we do have friends. But I am saying in a sense to maximize legacy.

I don't want to say something offensive , but friends are mine in a , yes I know him personality kind of way , family relations on the other hand are formed through the strands of dna itself sooo , IDK.

This line of thinking feels a lot like utilitarian (like its okay to do somethng bad short term for good long term)