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0 pointsshw1n1y ago0 comments

As someone who had both good and really bad times in schools, works in tech, and is considering it for our kids, some thoughts:

Never once did I want my kid to “not be around mediocre”, it’s the extremes I want to filter.

Part of the reason we’re considering private school is to avoid the bullies/wannabe gangbangers who don’t care if they end up in jail that made my own life miserable.

Similarly, our concern is with the other extreme, anxiety-ridden, high-expectations “has to change the world” is not what we want his social culture to be.

A group of kids that enjoy learning, understand the employee/entrepreneurial trade-off but may still opt for a 9-5 is what we’re after.

A friend of mine half-jokingly suggested “the cheapest private school” to balance this out, and actually seems like a half-decent solution.

Like with general life consequences, we want them to experience as much variance on their own while avoiding extreme swings with long-term negative repercussions (horrific injury, jail, dangerous drugs). This is just one facet among many for us.

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Wowfunhappy1y ago

There are private schools which have more and less competitive environments, it just depends. I'm not convinced that filtering by tuition cost will necessarily get you what you want, you'd want to research the individual school and talk to families and so on.

shw1nOP1y ago

This makes sense and is probably what we’d do.

The “cheapest private school” suggestion was also a response to avoiding another culture we wanted to avoid: entitled rich kid

The idea was that a tuition filter might help here, but that was purely off my friend’s experience as I have none with private school.

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