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0 pointsSketchySeaBeast1y ago0 comments

It is quaint but if my friends and family each had their own blog that they wanted me to look at, I wouldn't. There's a reason these social media places caught on, because they act as aggregators.

I get it, it's different types of content, one requires more effort than the other, and the argument is that, if you don't have anything of substance to say, don't say it, but it still requires extra effort to read that I probably don't feel inclined to give.

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jjulius1y ago

>It is quaint but if my friends and family each had their own blog that they wanted me to look at, I wouldn't.

Great! What's the problem?

Genuinely curious, because I see this tossed around everywhere as I quit social media, too. Why is there this massive pressure that everything everyone does has to be seen and I have to see it all? Nobody needs to see every blog that everyone they know (does every person on your friends list actually qualify as a "friend", or are they acquaintances?) puts out.

I genuinely don't care about this friend's political opinion or that friend's gardening adventures. I also genuinely hope they enjoy their pursuits and that they keep after what makes them happy. IF I get curious about Jan's gardening exploits, the blog is there if I want to read it for some tips, but I certainly don't owe it routine visits.

SketchySeaBeastOP1y ago

I guess my problem is for people like my grandmother. It's nice to see comments and interactions from her, but she's certainly not going to set up a blog. There's a whole gamut of toxic social media stuff, hustle culture and people trying to make a name for themselves as influencers, but before that, it was a way to passively keep in touch with people you may not normally get in touch with.

jjulius1y ago

Speaking just for me, because I know everyone's different, I had the same thought. I hardly ever called her, if ever, and vice versa. I started calling her maybe every 2-3 weeks just to say hey.

Sometimes she chats, other times she says she's good, we tell each other to have a nice day and that's that, it only lasts seconds.

But for some reason, to me, those short calls have felt far better than a like or a comment on FB or whatever. They feel more meaningful and I definitely feel more connected to her these days than I had for years.

YMMV. /shrug

robin_reala1y ago

That’s what RSS is for.

SketchySeaBeastOP1y ago

That solves the "there is a new post" aggregator problem, sure, but I still need to go there and read it.

foul1y ago

Make them include the full post in feed.

_w1tm1y ago

Do you?

insane_dreamer1y ago

> they act as aggregators

RSS, my friend

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jjulius1y ago

>It is quaint but if my friends and family each had their own blog that they wanted me to look at, I wouldn't.

Great! What's the problem?

SketchySeaBeastOP1y ago

jjulius1y ago

Speaking just for me, because I know everyone's different, I had the same thought. I hardly ever called her, if ever, and vice versa. I started calling her maybe every 2-3 weeks just to say hey.

Sometimes she chats, other times she says she's good, we tell each other to have a nice day and that's that, it only lasts seconds.

YMMV. /shrug

robin_reala1y ago

That’s what RSS is for.

SketchySeaBeastOP1y ago

That solves the "there is a new post" aggregator problem, sure, but I still need to go there and read it.

foul1y ago

Make them include the full post in feed.

_w1tm1y ago

Do you?

insane_dreamer1y ago

> they act as aggregators

RSS, my friend

j / k navigate · click thread line to collapse