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0 points_yb2s1y ago0 comments

I am into sailing and know a bunch of people that grew up “cruising the world” on sailboats with their parents. They’re almost all well adjusted, successful, and have unusually good social skills from learning how to make friends with people from other cultures. I think the structure and permanence that kids need is emotionally mature and available parents- the physical part is not the important part. Also, kids can have mental health problems and developmental disorders that have nothing to do with parenting- and it’s pretty awful to blame parents for their kids problems unless they intentionally abused them.

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withinboredom1y ago

Hol up. Sailing culture is VERY different from RV culture. I lived on a sailboat for years, going up and down the US coast, startup hopping. The sailing culture is very friendly, especially to kids (who are treated more like small adults than children). The people I met along the way are life-long friends. If I needed a ride to an auto store to pick up new house batteries, engine parts, or even to a Walmart, there were always people to give me a ride.

RV culture is much more lonely and expects people to be more self-sufficient. If you need help, there may or may not be people to help you; for sure, the whole campsite won’t jump to help, unlike a marina.

At least, that was my experience.

jhives1y ago

I don’t think that’s true of RV culture at all. I currently live on the road with my partner, and while we don’t yet have kids, we’ve met dozens of families and many more dozens of kids. All were more than capable of socializing and making friends, both with adults and other kids, and could often be found running around whatever campground or forest we were parked at. Certainly you can live a very isolated life on the road, but just like when living in a house if you put yourself out there there is a welcoming community that will respond.

_yb2sOP1y ago

Yes, I absolutely love how other adults in the sailing community treat my kid with kindness and respect, and listen to them the same as any adult. Sailing is somewhat of a dying thing- few young people do it and the older people are mostly really excited to see kids in the community.

We don’t actually live on a sailboat in the sense of this discussion, but a lot of our friends do.

geraldwhen1y ago

It’s funny you mention sailing. The couple people I know who grew up on a boat sailing like you describe no longer talk to their parents and long for a normal childhood they didn’t have.

_yb2sOP1y ago

I sounds to me like you are really upset about something awful that happened to you or people you care about, and not sharing the full story.

borski1y ago

This is precisely the first thing I thought of. You can absolutely provide structure and strong friendships without physical proximity.

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withinboredom1y ago

At least, that was my experience.

jhives1y ago

_yb2sOP1y ago

We don’t actually live on a sailboat in the sense of this discussion, but a lot of our friends do.

geraldwhen1y ago

It’s funny you mention sailing. The couple people I know who grew up on a boat sailing like you describe no longer talk to their parents and long for a normal childhood they didn’t have.

_yb2sOP1y ago

I sounds to me like you are really upset about something awful that happened to you or people you care about, and not sharing the full story.

borski1y ago

This is precisely the first thing I thought of. You can absolutely provide structure and strong friendships without physical proximity.

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