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0 pointsSoftTalker1y ago0 comments

Yes I know a woman who grew up this way, moving every couple of years, nothing ever permanent. As an adult, she has lived a life of self-sabotage, quitting jobs, moving and starting over, in and out of relationships with self-destructive men, never saving any money, never really planning for the future.

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raddan1y ago

My family moved nearly every year (and sometimes twice a year) until I was in high school. I loved the changes. I liked that when I went someplace new, the only thing my peers knew about me was what I told them. I made many friends over the years and I’d like to think that I am happy. So YMMV.

rvba1y ago

With how many of those friends do you still talk?

*Liking facebook photos does not count.

BehindBlueEyes1y ago

How many childhood friend does anyone still talk to beyond liking photos on facebook?

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borski1y ago

This is correlation. Plenty of people are brought up this way and are completely fine, and plenty of people are just like this and stayed in one place their entire lives.

hi_hi1y ago

You just described a good friend of mine. He's one of the smartest and most capable people I know, but could never get out of his own way.

Invictus01y ago

I know a woman who grew up in the typical way, in a stable loving household. As an adult, she has lived a life of self-sabotage, quitting jobs, moving and starting over, in and out of relationships with self-destructive men, never saving any money, never really planning for the future.

LouisSayers1y ago

And I went to 7 different schools growing up, have since lived in several countries, have a master's degree and money in the bank.

Correlation != Causation. People are different and respond differently to various situations.

For me personally, having been in lots of places means I always have people to visit and in many cases a place to stay.

zrobotics1y ago

I mean, the adult life you describe doesn't sound different from my brother, and growing up we moved once.

Edit: my brother grew up into a child abusing POS by neglecting his kids, but let's looks at statistics VS anecdotes since individuals from all backgrounds can be garbage people.

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