> message history functionality is too restrictive for me.

At least a way you can get around this is to do the backing up by desktop. I'm assuming you're on an iPhone because Android supports backup.

If you are Android, see Molly: https://github.com/mollyim/mollyim-android

  > Telegram strikes a good balance, and wins at the UI/UX game.

Telegram gets the "lol" because it's not default E2EE. They advertise themselves as E2EE but most people are not using this feature because it's opt in. If you're going to seriously position yourself as a security app, the defaults have to be secure. It's the bare minimum.

And E2EE isn't even available for group chats... WhatsApp is more secure (telegram also gathers metadata)...

I do think signal has stagnated while there are many things that could really be improved, including low hanging fruit like just being able to search for stickers (people do in fact care). But for the most part, I'm not sure there's anything major missing. It seems like we're willing to pay high costs to avoid small thorns. But I guess it's better to have a rock on your shoulders than a needle in your finger.

That's totally fair and I actually do agree.

I'm willing to give up convenience for security. But I do like to stress that we should try to have both as much as possible. It's a thing that is often forgotten and many times matters.

I'd definitely agree that it's not a big issue here, as password managers are more personal, though my general frustration is with things like communication where I need the other person to also be willing to make the same compromises. Though back with password managers, I do need things that at least pass the parent test (retiree but not old folks home) because their information leakage leads to my leakage regardless of my actions. So I still do think it's worth turning up the heat to push things this way.

As a different point (which I'm not trying to argue but point out) is that we also need to recognize momentum and the challenges it brings, especially to the less tech savvy. We can jump ship easily when tides change because we know how to sail on our own, but what about those that don't? I am sympathetic to those who think we just jump ship to ship because even when they follow when they look back it looks like everyone is fine. I think it's a really unfortunate issue and I think a much more difficult challenge to solve. I'm not sure if anyone has any ideas. OSS only makes it easy to jump ship, but it doesn't reduce the need to jump in the first place