I think that it's ugly but okay-ish right now. What is very very bad is the tooling, and someone should remember people that Facebook and Google do things that serves Facebook and Google-scale needs (billions of users, thousands of devs working asynchronously, no time).

What I end up thinking (maybe i'm wrong) is that node.js must be nuked out of backend and on frontend maybe some of the devs should use either a number of libraries under 15 and write custom code for the rest, or use a language that transpiles to JS like TS, flutter, nim, Go or what have you.

Maybe JS should be nuked out of tooling too, sometimes it's actively damaging and sometimes dead slow. Use something else if wrangling asset files are a problem.

If you want a DX where backend is frontend, you must use the only three mantained languages that can do that without trying to actively damage you or users, which are a Smalltalk (like Pharo), a Lisp (like Clojure/Clojurescript) or Java.