I don't think we have nearly as much visibility on what Waymo seems to believe about this tech as you seem to imply, nor do I think that their beliefs are necessarily authoritative. You seem disheartened that we haven't been able to solve self-driving in a couple of decades, and I'm of the opinion that geez, we basically have self-driving now and we started trying only a couple of decades ago.
How long after the invention of the transistor did we get personal computers? Maybe you just have unrealistic expectations of technological progress.