Also where I grew up, we had a "baseball analogy" for dating, in which running the bases proceeds more or less as follows:
1st base - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o_kTor63Ihw
2nd base - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lHOo_b6Gn4c
3rd base - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S-rB0pHI9fU
home run - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1niTEkP-6eo
So I would say (referring to the diving video!) that fingers in wet crevices and feeling around would be 3rd while sticking spears in and suddenly releasing tension would defo be a home run.
In countries that don't really have baseball as a sport that anyone plays, does the same pattern apply? Are there different analogies, perhaps involving "silly mid ons" or "brexit tackles"?
I remember reading someone saying literally "it's just not possible to find a good-looking girlfriend before graduating college". I was like, what? This statement offends the whole humanity, and also offends me as a man. And yeah, I care to explain why. It's just basically a more covert way of saying that "all women are, err, for the lack of better term, golddiggers, and all men want a partner who will offer them no more than sex". I sure get the evolutionary take on mate selection but even if one really understands it, one will know that the reality is much more complex that that.
As stated above, first dates at resturants, etc aren't for everybody.
> He was “funny, romantic, the most sensitive man I’ve ever met,” Wainscott later told the Charlotte Observer. “The guy that every girl would want.”
Then they started having dinners at Red Lobster - presumably that’s what she wanted, and a popular preference? Who cares if other people prefer free diving?
Sometimes you wanna get out asap.
So chain restaurants are really something that typically occur only in the same sorts of areas as big box stores, aiming at a similar demographic.
I'm > 60 and gone out on a lot of first dates over the decades, rarely to a resturant or a movie (I mean we have them here in W.Australia but of all the many ways to get to know a person these are not the best choices).
All dates have three elements: food, entertainment, and affection. A first date should have plenty of entertainment and only a hint of affection. At some point, the affection becomes the entertainment, but under no circumstances may the food be omitted.
