And catering to the average user’s expectation is what should dictate policy, not a “technically we have permission” caveat.
In this case Netflix was not an advertising partner. You were signing into Facebook Chat inside the Netflix chat, and participating in Facebook chat messages inside the Netflix app.
You were opting in and using the Netflix app as a Facebook Chat client. Its like being surprised the Pidgin executable could see your Jabber messages.
There are details that aren't clear here too: Did Netflix request read permissions when you signed in via Facebook? If so, that's shitty and is worthy of condemnation, but the onus falls more on Netflix than Facebook there. You should be able to sign in with Facebook without expecting your DMs to be sent to Netflix. It's still on Facebook, but to a much lesser extent: They should make what's being shared super clear when you sign in with Facebook, and that includes making the sign in super onerous and scary if its something like reading DMs, so the user doesn't miss these details. And they should be reviewing third party apps and what permissions they request, and making sure its inline with the functionality the app is presenting.
However, if the normal Facebook authentication flow did not grant this permission, and the permission was only granted when the user accessed the "Netflix Chat" or whatever feature which obviously did, in actuality, require the read permission to function, then this isn't that big a deal.
Right?
It's a dumb feature and I'm glad they killed it, but the "gotcha" here isn't much of a gotcha IMO. It was an opt-in feature to use Messenger inside these other apps; of course the other apps could see your messages if you opted into that. It's like complaining that GMail "shares your private email" with Apple Mail if you use Apple Mail as your mail client.
The most egregious example was probably LinkedIn's GMail "integration," ostensibly used to invite your GMail contacts to LinkedIn. Back then, that sort of thing felt innocuous. But the implementation was even worse. Due to lack of OAuth and MFA, you literally entered your GMail password into LinkedIn. Then LinkedIn logged into your GMail account where they could do anything. Even if they limited it to scraping your contacts, they still got every email address you'd ever sent or received an email to or from, over the lifetime of the account.
In any other context this would be called phishing. And by the way, this pattern still exists. For example, apps that force you to log into a third party site in their embedded WebView can read the entire DOM (including your password). ..
On Android, when you give a third party client permission to receive SMS, you don’t expect it to have access to your SMS?