Whenever you're asking for an explanation this deep in the ontology stack, you need to think about what kind of explanation would be satisfying to you, and whether you can reasonably expect intuitive answers in domains that lie far outside of your everyday experience. Human brains aren't built to grasp this stuff intuitively.

At a certain point, the reason we like some particular wacky physical model is always going to be "it has the best combination of explanatory power and simplicity"